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Boundaries in the Bedroom

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Last Updated on Thursday, 10 August 2017 16:03

Imagine a person who hires a security guard to protect his home and family, only for the very same guard to later on become the greatest danger and threat to their safety! Imagine a person who daily takes a multi-vitamin supplement in order to improve his health, only for the very same supplement to later on become the cause of his health deteriorating, leading to his death!

In a similar vein, the hadeeth teaches us that one of the main purposes and benefits of nikaah is that it safeguards a person from falling into the sin of zina and other sins related to lust. However, this purpose will be defeated if a person fails to realize that even life within the bedroom has limits. A person’s bedroom life need not be ‘dry’. But on the same token, it is not necessary to resort to bedroom activities that are either outright haraam or totally unnatural and filthy in order to gain satisfaction. We are all aware that the husband may only seek satisfaction in his wife, and the wife may only seek satisfaction in her husband. But, this does not mean that they may satisfy themselves in any and every manner they please!

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Rules of a Muslims Home – (#15) Mashwarah

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Last Updated on Saturday, 05 August 2017 15:38

Allah Ta‘ala instructed Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) in the Quraan Majeed as follows:

وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الْأَمْرِ فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّـهِ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ

Consult them in your affairs. Then when you have taken a decision, place your trust in Allah Ta‘ala, for verily Allah Ta‘ala loves those who place their trust in Him.

Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was undoubtedly the most intelligent of all mankind. Yet, despite his intelligence, Allah Ta‘ala instructed him to make mashwarah (consult) with the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum).

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First Impressions

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Last Updated on Thursday, 03 August 2017 15:10

The phrase ‘first impressions are lasting impressions’ is well known. Hence, when going to the home of one’s prospective in-laws for a proposal or when going for a job interview, a person ensures that he is on his very best behavior, as he wishes to create a positive impression that will hopefully remain a lasting impression.

Similarly, Islam teaches us that when a child is born, then the very first thing that should be done is to call out the azaan in his right ear and the iqaamah in his left ear. In this manner, the child’s very first impression is the impression of Islam and the greatness of Allah Ta‘ala.

Aside from being a teaching of Islam, this azaan and iqaamah in the ears of the newborn child contains numerous benefits. If the very first words that the child heard, when entering the world, were the words of the kalimah in the azaan, then it is hoped that the final words of the child, when leaving this world, will also be the words of the kalimah. An additional benefit is that of repelling Shaitaan. When the azaan is called out, Shaitaan is forced to flee. Hence, as soon as the child is born, we chase Shaitaan away and ensure that the child hears the invitation to Deen in the form of azaan.

Finally, the name of Allah Ta‘ala and the kalimah are such that they have a definite, positive effect on the person hearing them, even if he does not realize it. Thus, we strengthen the Deen of this newborn child with the kalimah and azaan, just as the doctors attempt to strengthen his immune system with vitamin injections, etc.

   

Creamy Pasta Casserole

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Last Updated on Saturday, 22 July 2017 09:54

Soften one onion chopped in a little oil.

Dice 2 chicken fillets.

Marinate the chicken in 1 tsp garlic, 1 tsp ginger garlic, 1 tsp dana jeero, 1 tsp salt, 1 tsp chilli powder, grinding of black pepper and ¼ tsp turmeric.

Braise chicken.

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Winter Guidelines

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Last Updated on Saturday, 15 July 2017 13:49

Previously, mention was made of Autumn wherein the heat of summer decreases and cold increases. This increase in cold continues until the next season enters which is winter.

Winter

During winter, cold intensifies until it reaches its peak. The cold thereafter remains constant for some time after which it begins to warm.

If we look around us and analyze the effects of winter, we notice two things happening:

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