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Goodness brings Goodness

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:23

The conditions affecting the mother during pregnancy tend to affect the child within her as well. Infact, some physicians are of the impression that the conditions affecting the parent during intercourse affect the habits and disposition of the child as well.

Therefore during pregnancy, the mother should ponder at length over the religious achievements of some pious personality. This, will Insha-Allah Ta’ala produce a pious off-spring. If both parents perform their Fajr salaah in the morning following the night of conception, Insha-Allah Ta’ala the child will be obedient to Allah Ta’ala. If Fajr salaah is missed, there is a fear that their children will be disobedient to them, just as they have been disobedient to their Allah Ta’ala. As parents, we are the gardeners of our children. What we plant today will be harvested tomorrow. Our lives of goodness will bring such children into this world that are also full of goodness.

   

Rules of a Muslim Home (#2) - Neatness

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Last Updated on Saturday, 23 February 2013 09:59

Al-hamdulillah in the last issue, the importance of cleanliness in our homes was discussed. Just as it is important to keep our homes clean and tidy, it is also important to keep it orderly and well organized. The Hadith very emphatically teaches us to be neat and organized in whatever we do.

On one occasion Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said to the Sahaabah (radiyallahu anhum): “You will soon be meeting some of your brothers, so straighten your saddles, and neaten your clothing until you become like a shining star in the sight of the people” (Abu Dawood #4091).

In this Hadith, Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) explicitly commands the Sahaabah (radiyallahu anhum) to straighten their saddles and neaten their clothes so as to look presentable in the sight of people. 

The following are some points that should be considered:

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Beat the children with love

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:23

Hakeemul-Ummah Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullahi alahi) used to say, : ‘When someone becomes my follower, my main concern and worry is not to reform that person, instead my first concern is to embed my love in that persons heart since if he loves me, he will obey me.’ Similarly, once the child loves his parents, he will be prepared to do anything for them. To get angry with one’s child and to chase him out of the home may not be an effective form of punishment. In fact in many cases the child will be too happy to be away from the angry nagging parents. Yes, if the child loves the parent, then the slight displeasure of the parent is sufficient to stop the child from further displeasing the parent. In this era we need to “beat” our children with love, mercy and kindness or else we may loose them.

   

The Road to a Happy Marriage (Part1 - Ahaadeeth & Obedience)

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:19

Ahaadeeth:

Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The woman who offers her five times salaah, fasts in the month of Ramadaan, protects her honour and obeys her husband, has the choice of entering Jannah from whichever door she wishes to enter from” (Ibnu Hibbaan #4163). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The woman who passes away in such a state that her husband is happy with her will enter Jannah” (Tirmizi #1161). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) also said: “If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone besides Allah Ta’ala, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband. If the husband orders the wife to carry the boulders of one mountain to the next and then to a third, she should do so” (Ibnu Maajah #1852).

Obedience:

1. Obey your husband in all permissible matters. This will draw the mercy of Allah Ta’ala. Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “After the Taqwa (fear) of Allah Ta’ala, there is no favour that a believer may enjoy better than a pious wife. If he instructs her she obeys him, if he looks towards her, she brings delight to him, if he takes an oath for her to do something she carries it out and if he is away from her (on a journey, etc.) she acts in good faith regarding her personal self and his wealth” (Ibnu Maajah #1857).

2. Never regard your obedience and service to your husband in mundane acts as insignificant. In fulfilling his wishes, you are obeying the command of Allah Ta’ala who has made incumbent upon you total obedience to your husband (in permissible matters). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said to a woman: “Your husband is either your Jannah or your Jahannum” (Muwatta Imaam Muhammamad #951).

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Oreo Cake

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:40

Ingredients:

½ pound butter

1 ½ cup castor sugar

4 eggs 

1 box oreo (original)

3 cups flour

1 ¾ cup milk

4 tsp baking powder

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