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The object of Marriage

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:21

One of the primary objects of nikah (marriage) as explained by Allah Ta’ala in the Quraan Majeed is that we may find sukoon (peace of mind and contentment of the heart) in our partner. The object is not that we get a very wealthy or a highly qualified husband. In the present times unfortunately we choose a husband on the basis of our worldly pleasures and desires.

No doubt after such a marriage we do enjoy temporary fun and pleasure, but we are definitely deprived of a pious deeni life, peace, contentment and eternal happiness. If the foundation of a marriage is Islam and piety, then only will the couple be a means of tranquility to each other. If there is no deen in a marriage, then that marriage will be full of stress, restlessness and sadness. Tea without sugar has no sweetness; marriage without Islam has no real happiness.

   

Opposites make a Match

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:23

A very pious and soft natured lady married a very ill-tempered husband. One day the wife said to her husband “You are indeed unfortunate. You have been staying with me for such a long time and yet you have not reformed yourself.” The husband replied, “Why call me unfortunate? Could there be anyone more fortunate than me, that I have a wife like you. In fact you are the unfortunate one that you have a husband like me.” 

At times marriages seem to be a combination of two persons with direct opposite personalities. If one’s marriage feels the same, then keep in mind that this is common. All we need to do is to turn to Allah T`alaa and thereafter to work as a couple through our differences. Many have done it and enjoy a happy marriage. You too can do the same.

   

Dealing with Inlaws

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:22

Faqihul Ummah, Mufti Mahmood Hasan Gangohi (rahimahullah) was among the great luminaries of the recent past. He served as the Head Mufti of the world renowned Darul Uloom Deoband for many years, during which he also taught Saheeh Bukhari. Thousands of students had qualified under his hands in the science of Hadeeth and jurisprudence, including many Senior Ulama and most of the Senior Muftis of our country. Hazrat Mufti Saheb (rahimahullah) was also the spiritual guide of thousands of people throughout the world. His sterling advice has helped thousands of people to overcome many problems and difficulties.Hereunder is an answer to a question posed to him.

Respected Mufti Saheb

As Salaamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh

I am now living with my in-laws and life has become very difficult. My husband is very unfair to me. He cares more for his mother and sisters while I get the ‘back seat’ for everything. I am treated like dirt while he thinks the world of them. My husband has now decided to go for Umrah and intends to take his mother and sisters along but does not intend taking me with him....

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Are we Chasing away the Angels

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:25

Angels of mercy do not enter a house that contains pictures of animate objects. Nowadays, children’s bedding, clothing, curtaining, stationery and toys are all covered with animals, actors, cartoons and characters. The human mind is such that by us continuously gazing at these pictures, an impression is left in our minds. These impressions over a period of time become our thoughts, words and actions. At times we are shocked at our child’s behavior, not realizing that our child is simply imitating a cartoon character who we have introduced the child to. Hours in front of the forbidden television screen adds fuel to the child’s love for cartoon characters and inculcates shameless and disrespectful behaviour in him/her. We teach our children not to speak to strangers, but we allow a host of strangers to keep our children entertained for hours on end in the form of the forbidden television screen. Thus they learn what the strangers tell them and act accordingly.

   

Health tips during pregnancy

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:44

Remember that now a child is being nourished within your own body. Every moment should be passed with caution and concern over the wellbeing of yourself and as well as your child.

 

Eat fresh green vegetables in abundance

Avoid over eating and abstain from food that causes constipation

Drink lots of milk

Abstain from tea, coffee, hot (spicy) and oily foods

In the first three months and from the seventh month onward, avoid conjugal relations with your husband

Try to get at least 8 hours of peaceful sleep

Avoid hard work and picking up very heavy objects

Remain happy and cheerful at all times

   

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