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Beat the children with love

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:23

Hakeemul-Ummah Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullahi alahi) used to say, : ‘When someone becomes my follower, my main concern and worry is not to reform that person, instead my first concern is to embed my love in that persons heart since if he loves me, he will obey me.’ Similarly, once the child loves his parents, he will be prepared to do anything for them. To get angry with one’s child and to chase him out of the home may not be an effective form of punishment. In fact in many cases the child will be too happy to be away from the angry nagging parents. Yes, if the child loves the parent, then the slight displeasure of the parent is sufficient to stop the child from further displeasing the parent. In this era we need to “beat” our children with love, mercy and kindness or else we may loose them.

   

The Road to a Happy Marriage (Part1 - Ahaadeeth & Obedience)

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:19

Ahaadeeth:

Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The woman who offers her five times salaah, fasts in the month of Ramadaan, protects her honour and obeys her husband, has the choice of entering Jannah from whichever door she wishes to enter from” (Ibnu Hibbaan #4163). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The woman who passes away in such a state that her husband is happy with her will enter Jannah” (Tirmizi #1161). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) also said: “If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone besides Allah Ta’ala, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband. If the husband orders the wife to carry the boulders of one mountain to the next and then to a third, she should do so” (Ibnu Maajah #1852).

Obedience:

1. Obey your husband in all permissible matters. This will draw the mercy of Allah Ta’ala. Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “After the Taqwa (fear) of Allah Ta’ala, there is no favour that a believer may enjoy better than a pious wife. If he instructs her she obeys him, if he looks towards her, she brings delight to him, if he takes an oath for her to do something she carries it out and if he is away from her (on a journey, etc.) she acts in good faith regarding her personal self and his wealth” (Ibnu Maajah #1857).

2. Never regard your obedience and service to your husband in mundane acts as insignificant. In fulfilling his wishes, you are obeying the command of Allah Ta’ala who has made incumbent upon you total obedience to your husband (in permissible matters). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said to a woman: “Your husband is either your Jannah or your Jahannum” (Muwatta Imaam Muhammamad #951).

Read more: The Road to a Happy Marriage (Part1 - Ahaadeeth & Obedience)

   

Oreo Cake

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:40

Ingredients:

½ pound butter

1 ½ cup castor sugar

4 eggs 

1 box oreo (original)

3 cups flour

1 ¾ cup milk

4 tsp baking powder

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The object of Marriage

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:21

One of the primary objects of nikah (marriage) as explained by Allah Ta’ala in the Quraan Majeed is that we may find sukoon (peace of mind and contentment of the heart) in our partner. The object is not that we get a very wealthy or a highly qualified husband. In the present times unfortunately we choose a husband on the basis of our worldly pleasures and desires.

No doubt after such a marriage we do enjoy temporary fun and pleasure, but we are definitely deprived of a pious deeni life, peace, contentment and eternal happiness. If the foundation of a marriage is Islam and piety, then only will the couple be a means of tranquility to each other. If there is no deen in a marriage, then that marriage will be full of stress, restlessness and sadness. Tea without sugar has no sweetness; marriage without Islam has no real happiness.

   

Opposites make a Match

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:23

A very pious and soft natured lady married a very ill-tempered husband. One day the wife said to her husband “You are indeed unfortunate. You have been staying with me for such a long time and yet you have not reformed yourself.” The husband replied, “Why call me unfortunate? Could there be anyone more fortunate than me, that I have a wife like you. In fact you are the unfortunate one that you have a husband like me.” 

At times marriages seem to be a combination of two persons with direct opposite personalities. If one’s marriage feels the same, then keep in mind that this is common. All we need to do is to turn to Allah T`alaa and thereafter to work as a couple through our differences. Many have done it and enjoy a happy marriage. You too can do the same.

   

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