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Mother and Child, a Unique Bond

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Last Updated on Monday, 27 May 2013 14:14

The most precious wealth of any nation is its children. They are the future of any nation. Today they maybe playing on the laps of their mothers, but they are the very ones who will turn out to be the builders of tomorrow. The mother and child enjoy a unique bond, which in turn adds to the mother’s responsibility of nurturing her child. The mothers lap is either going to be a garden of good qualities from which her child will enjoy or a pit of evil habits that will haunt and take over the innocent child. If the mother is pious, she performs her salaah on time, daily she makes time for Quraan, zikr and du’aa, she displays good character and she stays away from sin, then automatically the child will follow the same pathway. It is not possible that a person plants flowers and only weeds will grow. The good we sow is the good we will harvest.

 
   

Rules of a Muslim Home (#3) - Speaking in a Soft Tone

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Last Updated on Saturday, 23 February 2013 09:59

The Quraan Majeed declares that Allah Ta’ala has made the home of a believer a place of peace and tranquillity (Surah Nahl, v80). Thus we understand that among the etiquettes of a Muslim home is that members of the household refrain from doing anything that destroys the peace and tranquillity. This includes thoughtless and loud disturbing speech. 

It is mentioned in a Hadith that “A Muslim is he who other Muslims are safe from the harms of his tongue and his hands.” (Saheeh Bukhari #9) 

People living in the same house are more than neighbours and more than just friends. Therefore, it is imperative that they should not hurt one another in any way. Among the most annoying and hurtful behaviour is making noise at home or raising one’s voice so loudly that it distresses others. 

A woman, especially, should be extra careful when speaking. Speaking in a loud tone shows a lack of self-respect and modesty in women. If due to some necessity she has to raise her voice, and there is a fear of strange men listening to it, then she should be careful not to talk in a seductive tone. Rather her speech should be short but not sweet.

Allah Ta’ala has mentioned in the Quraan Majeed addressing the pure wives of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam):

“Do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire” (Ahzaab, v32)

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Spinach pies

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:39

Ingredients:

1 onion - sauté in butter

500g cubed chicken fillet

1 tsp salt

½ tsp lemon pepper

1 tsp garlic 

Ground green chillies (to taste) 

Crushed jeero

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The Road to a Happy Marriage (Part2 - General Conduct)

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 February 2013 06:16

1. When your husband enters the home, always make salaam cheerfully and give him a warm affectionate smile, no matter how difficult your day may have been. Similarly, when he leaves the home in the morning, make a point of making salaam and kissing him. Salaam is a means of engendering great love and happiness in the home. Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) advised Anas (radiyallahu anhu) thus: “Oh my son! When you enter your home, make salaam to your family, it will be a means of blessings for you and for them” (Tirmizi #2698). (NB: Any act of intimacy, no matter how small, must NEVER be done in the presence of children, even if they are not of a discerning age.) 

2. If you had a difficult or tiring day, try to appear cheerful. Do not tell him your difficulties as soon as he enters the home. This could cause him to become angry. Gradually try to win his compassion and sympathy. 

3. You should abstain from all things and every form of behavior that your husband disapproves of. Acquaint yourself with his moods and act accordingly to earn his pleasure. 

4. Do not increase his worries. Strive to become a source of comfort and peace for him. 

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Messed with Blue & Red Ink

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:21

Imagine a child going for the first time to his father’s desk. The exciting pens, the pencils, eraser, letter-opener, etc. are all neatly arranged on one side. He begins to explore and investigate the use of each item. In a few minutes the entire place is in a mess. He also turns the inkpot upside down and the ink runs on his fingers, onto the papers, the desk and the carpet. The child obviously had no idea of the consequence of his innocent explorations. Gripped with fear , the child now starts wiping the ink off his fingers on the front of his clothes and he hastily starts wiping the ink off other items using whatever pieces of paper available to him. 

Now, what should your reaction be, to this child? Should you scream at him for his innocence? You judge for yourself. Would punishing such a child not be unfair to him? His curiosity got the better of him. He made a mistake. He did not know the reality of what he was doing. Would it not be better to sit with him and explain to him the wrong he has done, the mess he has made and the danger of exploring things on his own?

   

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