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Spring Guidelines

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Last Updated on Saturday, 01 October 2016 16:38

As the days and months pass, we notice a change in the climate and temperature around us. This change that occurs is known to all of us as the different seasons. We also notice everything reacting to this change in its own unique way, such as birds migrating to warmer climates and plants either blooming or withering and drying out.

Similarly, our bodies also undergo certain changes to adjust to these changes in the climate. These adjustments which we make, whether consciously or sub-consciously, are to ensure that we derive the maximum benefit from the relevant season as well as save ourselves from its harms.

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My Child’s Comfort

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Last Updated on Thursday, 01 September 2016 16:07

Sayyidah Zainab (radhiyallahu ‘anha), the beloved daughter of Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), passed away in the eighth year after Hijrah.

Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) mentions, “When Zainab (radhiyallahu ‘anha) passed away, we emerged with Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) (to attend to her burial) and saw that he (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was extremely grieved and sad. (Such was his grief) that we did not speak to him until we arrived at the grave. When we reached the grave, we found that it was still being dug. Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) therefore sat for some time, speaking to himself and glancing at the sky, while we sat around him. When the grave was ready, Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) descended into it and I saw his grief intensify. When he had completed burying her and emerged from the grave, his blessed face was radiating relief and happiness. We therefore asked, ‘O Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam)! We saw the extent of your grief and hence were unable to even speak to you. We thereafter saw that you were suddenly very happy. What was the matter?’ He (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, ‘I had remembered the narrowness and grief of the grave and I thought about Zainab and her weakness. This thought grieved me. I therefore made du‘aa to Allah Ta‘ala to grant her ease from the constraints and grief of the grave. Allah Ta‘ala accepted my du‘aa and granted her ease’.” (Majma’uz Zawaa’id, vol. 3, pg. 166)

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Angel Food Cake

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Last Updated on Saturday, 20 August 2016 15:39

Ingredients:

6 egg whites

½ tsp cream of tartar

140 ml sugar

1 tsp vanilla extract

110 ml Flour (or 70 ml flour + 40 ml cocoa powder for chocolate cake)

1/3 tsp bicarb

1 ½ cups of sweetened whipped cream and chopped strawberries and nuts

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Kitchen Specialist

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Last Updated on Thursday, 28 July 2016 15:45

As housewives, many of us pride ourselves on our expertise and culinary creativity in the kitchen. We expend all effort in presenting our husbands with delicious dishes, tantalizing treats and decadent desserts that seduce the senses. Thus when it comes to winning the hearts of our husbands through their stomachs, we not only succeed but thoroughly excel.

Now imagine for a moment that you spent hours and hours in preparing and decorating an elaborate, multi tiered cake – only to stumble and drop it and watch it smash to bits a few feet from the door of its intended destination. Wouldn’t you feel devastated and whole heartedly disappointed to watch the product of your labours disintegrate in just a few moments?

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Don’t Interfere

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 20 July 2016 14:24

It often happens where the child misbehaves and is thus deserving of punishment. However, while one or both of the parents are expressing disapproval and wish to punish the child, the other parent or other parties (grandparents etc.) laugh at the “performance” of the child and try to protect the child. This is extremely detrimental as it confuses the moral compass of the child. The child is lead to understand that my behaviour is only disapproved in the eyes of my parents whereas others admire my antics. This encourages the child to “perform” for his spectators and to also resent his parents for punishing him as he feels that his ill behavior is actually acceptable.

Furthermore, the child becomes cunning and realizes that he can get away with ill behavior in the presence of these “protectors” and thus turns to them to continually undermine the authority of his parents.

It is thus essential that we do not, in any way, interfere when a parent metes out an appropriate punishment to their deserving child.

   

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