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Last Updated on Wednesday, 20 July 2016 14:24

It often happens where the child misbehaves and is thus deserving of punishment. However, while one or both of the parents are expressing disapproval and wish to punish the child, the other parent or other parties (grandparents etc.) laugh at the “performance” of the child and try to protect the child. This is extremely detrimental as it confuses the moral compass of the child. The child is lead to understand that my behaviour is only disapproved in the eyes of my parents whereas others admire my antics. This encourages the child to “perform” for his spectators and to also resent his parents for punishing him as he feels that his ill behavior is actually acceptable.

Furthermore, the child becomes cunning and realizes that he can get away with ill behavior in the presence of these “protectors” and thus turns to them to continually undermine the authority of his parents.

It is thus essential that we do not, in any way, interfere when a parent metes out an appropriate punishment to their deserving child.

   

Marie Pops

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Last Updated on Monday, 27 June 2016 15:24

Ingredients:

¼ lb Butter

2 Tbsp cocoa

2 Tbsp castor sugar

¼ cup cut almonds

1 packet Marie biscuits

1 Tbsp golden syrup

2 Tbsp condensed milk

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Savoury Lollipops

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Last Updated on Sunday, 29 May 2016 12:07

Step 1

½ kg cubed chicken fillet

Braise with garlic, green masala and ½ tsp black crushed pepper (make hot)

Then add chopped dhania

Step 2

Make mash with 4 large potatoes

Add garlic, salt, green chillies, lemon juice, dhania and spring onions

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Rules of a Muslim Home (#12) – Respect (Part Two)

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Last Updated on Saturday, 21 May 2016 16:06

The following are some of the important aspects that have to be respected in a Muslim home:

Parents

While respect for elders is fast decreasing in general, shocking incidents regularly come to light indicating the level to which respect for parents has fallen. The Quraan declares: “Do not even say oof to them (parents).” (Surah Israa’ v23) The word “oof” in the Arabic language is to denote the slightest degree of displeasure. How then can it ever be permissible to talk harshly to one’s parents or to argue with them? Yet, parents are physically abused by their children. May Allah Ta‘ala save us. Such treatment towards parents will only invite calamities upon oneself.

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Rules of a Muslim Home (#12) – Respect (Part One)

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Last Updated on Saturday, 07 May 2016 10:19

The Quraan Majeed and ahaadeeth strongly emphasise the lesson of respect. Every household should endeavour that the inmates of the house display a high level of respect in everything that they say or do. If you show respect, you will earn respect.

Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) also stressed the lesson of respect upon the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) at every occasion. A hadeeth clearly proclaims: “He who does not respect the elders amongst us and is not merciful upon the young, is not one of us.” (Sunan Abi Dawood #4943) Another hadeeth states: “Verily it is from the dictates of the respect for Allah Ta‘ala to respect a Muslim of advanced age, to respect a haafiz of the Quraan who does neither exceed its bounds nor does he disregard it and to respect a just ruler.” (Sunan Abi Dawood #4843)

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