Rules of a Muslim Home (#4) - Tarbiyah of our Families (Part Three)

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How do we make the tarbiyah of our children (continued)?

5. Cell Phones and Computers: Be extremely cautious about giving them cell phones and allowing them free usage of the computer. If under extreme circumstances they are forced to use the cell phone or the computer, then this should be allowed only under your strict supervision. These modern day tools are like dangerous weapons which can be detrimental to the child’s Imaan. 

6. Salaah: Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has commanded us to encourage our children to perform salaah from the age of seven. It is thus the duty of the parents to ensure that this greatest form of ‘Ibaadah is instilled deeply in the hearts of our children from a young age.

7. Good Company: The great pious scholars of the past have strongly advised that young children of an understanding age should be introduced to pious, righteous ‘Ulama. Sitting in the company of these ‘Ulama will provide wonderful guidance for them in the most positive way possible. Also encourage them to participate in the tableegh jamaat activities during their free time. This will indeed prevent them from much negative influences which are prevalent in society. 

8. Du‘aa: Daily make du‘aa for them. Allah Ta‘ala readily accepts the du‘aa of a parent for his/her child. Many a great scholar of Deen flourished as a result of the du‘aas of his parents. Imaam Bukhaari (rahimahullah)’s eye sight was restored due the excessive du‘aa of his mother. 

9. Entrust them to Allah Ta‘ala: Keep in mind that Allah Ta‘ala is the Murabbi Haqeeqi (The True Mentor), and it is only with His help that our children’s tarbiyah can be made. Therefore entrust them totally in the care of Allah Ta‘ala and beseech Him to nurture them correctly.

May Allah Ta‘ala assist us all in the upbringing of our children, aameen.