Home Family Matters Children

Children

First Impressions

PDFPrintE-mail

Last Updated on Thursday, 03 August 2017 15:10

The phrase ‘first impressions are lasting impressions’ is well known. Hence, when going to the home of one’s prospective in-laws for a proposal or when going for a job interview, a person ensures that he is on his very best behavior, as he wishes to create a positive impression that will hopefully remain a lasting impression.

Similarly, Islam teaches us that when a child is born, then the very first thing that should be done is to call out the azaan in his right ear and the iqaamah in his left ear. In this manner, the child’s very first impression is the impression of Islam and the greatness of Allah Ta‘ala.

Aside from being a teaching of Islam, this azaan and iqaamah in the ears of the newborn child contains numerous benefits. If the very first words that the child heard, when entering the world, were the words of the kalimah in the azaan, then it is hoped that the final words of the child, when leaving this world, will also be the words of the kalimah. An additional benefit is that of repelling Shaitaan. When the azaan is called out, Shaitaan is forced to flee. Hence, as soon as the child is born, we chase Shaitaan away and ensure that the child hears the invitation to Deen in the form of azaan.

Finally, the name of Allah Ta‘ala and the kalimah are such that they have a definite, positive effect on the person hearing them, even if he does not realize it. Thus, we strengthen the Deen of this newborn child with the kalimah and azaan, just as the doctors attempt to strengthen his immune system with vitamin injections, etc.

   

Du‘aa for the Parents and Newborn

PDFPrintE-mail

Last Updated on Thursday, 04 May 2017 11:45

Islam is a Deen that teaches us to love for others that which we love for ourselves. Hence, when our friends or relatives are blessed with a child, we should be happy for them and try to increase their joy. We should congratulate them on the blessing that they have received from Allah Ta‘ala and make du‘aa for them, as du‘aa is one of the greatest gifts that a person can give the next.

Furthermore, doing so will not only strengthen our ties and create love among us, but will also bring us barakah as when a person makes du‘aa for the next person, Allah Ta‘ala accepts that same du‘aa for the one who made it. Thus, a very effective method of making our children obedient and pious is to make du‘aa that Allah Ta‘ala grant others pious and obedient children.

Read more: Du‘aa for the Parents and Newborn

   

The Bitter Pill with Sweet Results

PDFPrintE-mail

Last Updated on Tuesday, 28 March 2017 16:09

For everything in life, there is both a procedure and price. If a person wishes to build a house, he understands that the structure will cost him a substantial sum of money and that it will not spring up overnight. Similarly, if a person wishes to become a highly qualified specialist in the medical field, he will understand that he will first have to work his way through school, matriculate with good marks, gain admission into a university, pass through the various years, etc., before his aspiration can eventually be realized. This is the simple yet inescapable system that dominates in all facets of life.

Read more: The Bitter Pill with Sweet Results

   

Equality between One’s Children

PDFPrintE-mail

Last Updated on Thursday, 16 February 2017 15:57

Allah Ta‘ala has instilled a deep love within every parent’s heart for their children. This love manifests itself in many ways. At times, the parents may hug and kiss their children, at other times they may show them kindness and affection, while sometimes they give them gifts.

Love is an emotion over which a person does not have complete control. Hence, it is possible for a parent to naturally have more love for one child than he has for the other. Since this increased love is something over which he has no control, Allah Ta‘ala will not take him to task for having more love for one child than the other. However, our behaviour is something which we do have control over, and thus Allah Ta‘ala will take us to task for showing more favour to one child than the other.

Read more: Equality between One’s Children

   

The Silent Recorder

PDFPrintE-mail

Last Updated on Thursday, 24 November 2016 14:28

A young child is like a recorder. Every laugh and cry and scream and sigh around them is recorded. However, on account of the recorder being silent, nobody realizes that they are being recorded.

These recordings are thereafter played, from time to time, through the years that follow. If not played through the ‘speaker’ of the child’s mouth, they play out through his actions – and actions speak louder than words.

Every child starts with a clean slate and thus has the potential to record anything – be it good or bad. The environment which the parents create for the child thereafter determines what the child will record and re-enact later on in life. If the environment was polluted with sin and evil, the child will be corrupted – often for the rest of his life. On a positive note, if the environment is one of Islam and Deen, the child will be a reflection of the pristine teachings of Islam for the rest of his life.

The child’s recording cannot simply be ‘deleted’ and ‘rewritten’. Hence we have to exercise the greatest level of caution in ensuring that it is only the values and qualities of deen and Islam that are recorded by the child. Doing this will ensure that the child will succeed in this world and the next.

   

Page 1 of 9