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Last Updated on Saturday, 18 June 2022 15:50

Did you know that an adult can drown in just 60 seconds, and a child can drown in just 20 seconds? Did you know that it takes just half a cup of water entering your lungs to cause you to drown? Did you know that in most cases, drownings are silent, without any desperate splashing or shouting for help? Did you know that the majority of drownings occur within 10 meters of safety?

The above statistics probably come as a surprise to most people, but they highlight a crucial point – drowning occurs very quickly, and it is generally due to a brief lapse in the attention of those supervising the children. Thus, experts advise that when children are in water, adults should scan the water every 10 seconds, looking for signs of distress, and should be able to reach a child in trouble within 20 seconds.

Now, just as a child can drown in water and lose his life, there is another form of drowning which can take place which is even worse than drowning in water. This is the drowning of our children’s imaan in the floods of fitnah (Deeni and imaani trials). This drowning is far worse and far more tragic, as the child losing his imaan, and later on passing away in a state of disbelief, will result in him being condemned to Jahannam for eternity.

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The Subtle Influence


Last Updated on Thursday, 10 February 2022 10:21

Accents are rather strange and fascinating. People speak the same language, and utter the same words, yet it sounds completely different. Different syllables are emphasized and various vowels are intonated and pronounced differently. In some cases, the foreign accent may sound so strange that it may even be mistaken for a foreign language!

The question is, “How are accents acquired?” After all, when babies are born, they cannot speak, and though their crying varies in volume, it has a universal ‘accent’. The answer is that accents are acquired through the influence of others. It is for this reason that children generally share their parents’ accents, as it is their parents from whom they learnt to speak.

However, there are many cases where accents are acquired. Among these are young children who emigrate to another country, or even children who are not English speaking but learn to speak English via the media. In such cases, though their roots are in one land, their accents are borrowed from another.

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Where is the Ambition Today?


Last Updated on Thursday, 07 October 2021 16:19

A simple experiment to attempt: Take your palm and press it into your thigh, or stomach, or any other limb, with a certain amount of force. Try to remember how much of pressure you felt, and whether or not you experienced any pain. Thereafter, press the tip of your index finger into the same area, using the same amount of force. Does it feel any different than from when you pressed with your whole palm?

It should. In fact, it should feel ‘harder’, more forceful and perhaps slightly painful as well. The reason is that though the amount of force applied is the same, the area to which it was applied, in the second situation, was smaller. Hence, the force was more focused, causing the pressure to increase. From this law of physics, we understand a simple but fundamental concept – in order for a force to be more effective and powerful, it must be more focused.

Every person in the world has a certain amount of potential within them, but the youth, in particular, are ‘bubbling fountains’ of potential and ‘force’. The reason is that youth tend to be more energetic, high-spirited and optimistic than those who are older. Furthermore, they are not hindered by the commitments and responsibilities of adulthood such as raising a family, earning a livelihood, etc.

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Undermining Authority


Last Updated on Saturday, 10 July 2021 14:41

Allah Ta‘ala has designed the world as a place where some people will have authority over others. For example, the ruler will have authority over the citizens, the employer will have some degree of authority over his employees, the principal over the school, the station commander over the policemen under him, etc. This is the system of Allah Ta‘ala, which is not only essential for maintaining law and order, but also for mankind to progress and be productive.

If no person respected and recognized the police force, there would be widespread anarchy and lawlessness. Likewise, if no person was prepared to submit to an employer, we would not be able to organize and coordinate labour forces to produce goods and render services on a large scale.

In the same manner, every home has a leader at the helm – the head of the household and figure of authority – and it is the father whom Allah Ta‘ala has appointed to this position. On account of the natural authority given to him by Allah Ta‘ala, the father administrates the affairs of the household, overseeing the upbringing of the children, supervising their education, upholding discipline and ensuring that the household runs smoothly, without any hiccups. As for the mother, then though she has no authority over her husband, she has also been given authority over her children so that she may raise them and mould them correctly.

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The Unbiased Barometer


Last Updated on Thursday, 03 June 2021 15:13

Childhood is generally regarded to be the period of innocence and purity. A young, blameless child, as yet uncorrupted and untainted, sees the world around him in clear black and white. For such a child, there is no diplomacy and tact, no skirting around the topic, beating around the bush, indirect references, indications and insinuations. Rather, the child says it as it is or at least how he knows it, without any qualms and reservations whatsoever.

In the initial stages of childhood, the child may even unintentionally cause the parents embarrassment. Such was the case with a mother who threatened her daughter saying, “If you don’t listen to me, I will send a message to your Moulana and tell him that you are being naughty!” To the mother’s mortification and embarrassment, the daughter replied, “If you tell Moulana about me, then I will tell Moulana… about you!” As this was mentioned in the presence of others, who were unaware of the mother’s weakness and bad habit mentioned by the daughter, she was seized by embarrassment and was dumbstruck.

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