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Don’t Interfere

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 20 July 2016 14:24

It often happens where the child misbehaves and is thus deserving of punishment. However, while one or both of the parents are expressing disapproval and wish to punish the child, the other parent or other parties (grandparents etc.) laugh at the “performance” of the child and try to protect the child. This is extremely detrimental as it confuses the moral compass of the child. The child is lead to understand that my behaviour is only disapproved in the eyes of my parents whereas others admire my antics. This encourages the child to “perform” for his spectators and to also resent his parents for punishing him as he feels that his ill behavior is actually acceptable.

Furthermore, the child becomes cunning and realizes that he can get away with ill behavior in the presence of these “protectors” and thus turns to them to continually undermine the authority of his parents.

It is thus essential that we do not, in any way, interfere when a parent metes out an appropriate punishment to their deserving child.

   

Empty Threats

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Last Updated on Thursday, 21 April 2016 15:56

When parents threaten their children with a certain punishment for misbehaving, provided that the punishment is appropriate and within the limits of sharee‘ah, and the child is deserving, it is essential that they implement the punishment.

While the parent has many functions to fulfil e.g. protector and one showing love, a very important role and function of the parent which serves to develop the child’s discipline and behavior is that of “figure of authority”.

If the parents fail in administering their threat, the child will lose his respect for them as the “figures of authority” in his life. He will view his parents as people who make empty threats because they cannot stick to their word and have a weak resolve. Apart from the harm caused by the child losing respect for his parents, they are further harming him by setting a bad example – the example of somebody who does not keep to their word.

   

Causing Moral Decay in our Children

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Last Updated on Thursday, 10 March 2016 15:32

One of the main reasons for the moral decay in many children is that when there is an occasion which demands love and affection, we punish and shout the child, and when the occasion warrants admonition, we show the child love and affection.

Often the child makes a mistake, and on realising his mistake is remorseful and intends to make amends. At this juncture, the child needs our warmth and support. If at such a time instead of supporting the child, one gets angry and reprimands him over his mistake, it may break his spirit and courage to change and rectify himself. In future he will not even consider correcting his mistake as he will think to himself “Whether I change or not, my parents will still shout at me.”

Read more: Causing Moral Decay in our Children

   

Baby Talk

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Last Updated on Thursday, 28 January 2016 14:25

Instilling deen within the child is an effort which begins from the very moment the child takes his first breath and begins to bawl. We will, at every turn, juncture and phase of the child’s life, provide guidance in order to mould the child into becoming a true Muslim.

As soon as the child, in his own broken way, tries to pronounce a few words, we will begin teaching him the name of Allah Ta‘ala in the hope that this will be the first word he utters. When the child has reached the age of basic understanding, we will, together with being a practical example of deen, verbally explain the concepts of deen to him. For example, we will introduce our children to Allah Ta‘ala by mentioning and explaining His qualities to them. We will explain that Allah Ta‘ala has created everything and He alone gives life and death.

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“Dear Parents”

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Last Updated on Thursday, 07 January 2016 16:11

(Submitted by a Subscriber)

How do you expect kids to listen to their parents when…

* Tarzan lives half naked,

* Cinderella comes home at midnight,

* Pinocchio lies all the time,

* Aladdin is the king of thieves,

* Batman drives at 200 km/h,

* Romeo and Juliet commit suicide out of love,

* Harry Potter uses witchcraft,

* Mickey and Minnie are more than just friends,

* Sleeping Beauty is lazy,

* Dumbo gets drunk and hallucinates,

* Scooby Doo gives nightmares,

* and Snow White lives with 7 guys.

Read more: “Dear Parents”

   

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