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A Good Home

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 30 December 2015 16:17

(Transcribed from a talk given by Mufti Ebrahim Salajee [daamat barakaatuhum], on the completion of Mishkaatul Masaabeeh at Madrasah Islaahul Muslimaat, Sherwood) 

Parents are generally not consistent in making du‘aa for their children; yet their du‘aas are readily accepted. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said: “There are three such people whose du‘aas are accepted instantly: the du‘aa of an oppressed person, the du‘aa of a traveller, a parent’s du‘aa for his/her child.” (Sunan Ibni Maajah #3862)

Hazrat Moulana In‘aamul Hasan (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) had mentioned that there is one simple du‘aa which will be a means of great goodness for one’s children. The du‘aa is, “O Allah, grant my child a good home.”

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Profound Du‘aa of Ebrahim (‘alaihis salaam)

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Last Updated on Thursday, 10 September 2015 15:42

When Ebrahim (‘alaihis salaam) left his wife and infant child in the barren land of Makkah Mukarramah on the command of Allah Ta‘ala, he supplicated to Allah Ta‘ala in the following words:

رَّبَّنَا إِنِّي أَسْكَنتُ مِن ذُرِّيَّتِي بِوَادٍ غَيْرِ ذِي زَرْعٍ عِندَ بَيْتِكَ الْمُحَرَّمِ رَبَّنَا لِيُقِيمُوا الصَّلَاةَ فَاجْعَلْ أَفْئِدَةً مِّنَ النَّاسِ تَهْوِي إِلَيْهِمْ وَارْزُقْهُم مِّنَ الثَّمَرَاتِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَشْكُرُونَ​

“O Allah, I have settled my progeny in a barren land (Makkah Mukarramah) by your sacred house, so that they may establish salaah. So make the hearts of the people yearn towards them and provide them with fruits, so that they may be grateful.” (Surah Ebrahim v37)

This du‘aa contains the following important lessons:

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Two Vaccines

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Last Updated on Thursday, 06 August 2015 07:13

There are two extremely essential “vaccines” with which we, as parents, need to inoculate and protect the hearts and minds of our children:

1. The love of Allah Ta‘ala – Constantly speak about the innumerable favours of Allah Ta‘ala and explain the beautiful qualities of Allah Ta‘ala to them. In this way every fibre of the child will eventually become soaked and saturated in the love of Allah Ta‘ala. The love of Allah Ta‘ala will automatically bring about total obedience to the commands of Allah Ta‘ala and will dissuade the child from chasing after the temporary pleasures of the world.

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The Angry Child

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Last Updated on Thursday, 07 May 2015 15:52

A child will most likely get angry if there is something that is stopping him from achieving his objective. When he still gets nowhere, he starts fuming with rage. We should not allow the child to reach this stage. In some homes, it is indeed sad that we incite the child into a fit of rage. This is misconceived as a form of play and affection, whereas this is detrimental to the child.

Often, the child’s anger and rage is as a result of the manner we conduct ourselves. Those little eyes and ears see and hear everything around them and accordingly carry them out. Thus we as parents should display patience and tolerance in the presence of our children. 

   

Introduce them to Allah Ta‘ala

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Last Updated on Thursday, 19 March 2015 10:34

From the very early stages of the child’s life the mother should continue strengthening the child’s relationship with Allah Ta‘ala. For example, if the child asks the mother for an expensive toy, she should say: “Ask Allah Ta‘ala to provide the item for you, thereafter ask your father. And remember my child, if Allah Ta‘ala wishes to provide the item to you, he will put it into your father’s heart to buy it for you and if Allah Ta‘ala does not wish you to have the item, you will never get it.”

In this way the child’s faith and conviction is built in Allah Ta‘ala. Whenever the child is confronted with a situation, then at once he will turn to Allah Ta‘ala. The child will always hold onto hope and will never fall into depression and grief. Today, too many of our youth are giving up on life. If they are faced with a small test or difficulty, it throws them into a state of hopelessness. We need to simply introduce our children to the power and greatness of Allah Ta‘ala.

   

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