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The “NEED” of the Hour

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Last Updated on Thursday, 02 October 2014 16:01

Friday 16:10:

“Oh No, Only 20 minutes left to pick up the kids from madrasah. Oh Gosh! Tomorrow is another crazy Saturday morning with them at home”, groaned mum.

Friday 16:40 (after madrasah):

“Yesss, it’s weekend again. Tomorrow we can hook up with the gang at the mall. Maybe, we can catch a good movie,” thought the kids gleefully.

Saturday morning:

“Stop that, I’m busy on the phone. Can’t you do something to occupy yourself! Enough nagging”, yells mum amid the chaos and clutter.

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The Most Difficult Task in the World

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Last Updated on Monday, 11 August 2014 15:18

If the question has to be asked as to what is the most difficult task in this world, the answer would most probably be “to be a mother”. To be a perfect mother, you will have to supplicate daily for the control of your feelings and emotions. A mother is referred to as an embodiment of sympathy, kindness, tolerance and forbearance. Hence, becoming the ideal mother and bringing the children up correctly is a back breaking, nerve-wrecking and bone wrenching task. You will have to suppress your fury, make do with what ever is available and cheerfully display motherly affection to your children.

How unfortunate is that mother who on account of a bit of difficulty, starts scolding and punishing her children. The mother is awarded respect because her nature is one of love and mercy. She is not foul-mouthed or short-sighted. An innocent child deserves warmth and attachment. On the day of judgement, the mother will undoubtedly be rewarded for her kind words and her outstanding character which proved to be a guiding light to her children. However, she will not be rewarded for the number of times she furiously vented her personal anger to satisfy her inner desire.

   

My Mother’s Tongue

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Last Updated on Saturday, 07 June 2014 07:45

A Muslim court once handed down a judgement against a thief. As his hand was about to be amputated, he ragingly said: “Before amputating my hand, amputate my mothers tongue, because the very first time in my life when I stole an egg from my neighbour’s house, my mother failed to admonish me . She did not even ask me to return the egg to the neighbour. In fact she was full of praise and happiness that her son turned out to be a perfect man. If my mother did not have such a congratulating tongue, I would not have been a criminal today.”

The most prevailing influence anyone can have on the child is the mother. As mothers we have to be well aware of our child’s activities within the home and beyond as well.

   

The Dessert Slipped and Fell

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Your child opened the fridge and the dessert which took you the entire morning to prepare slipped and fell out of his hands. The easiest thing to do is to get angry and shout at the child. But this does not remedy the situation nor does it better the child in any way.

On the other hand exercising a little patience and suppressing one’s anger will leave an admirable impression on your child. Place your hand on the child and console him saying: “Don’t be grieved. Whatever has happened has happened with the will of Allah Ta‘ala. Allah Ta‘ala has protected us from a bigger calamity. You could have lost a limb. Nevertheless, in future, if you want something, let me know first.” Such words nurture real human beings with true qualities.

   

Don’t Speak to Strangers

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Last Updated on Sunday, 23 February 2014 06:47

Generally we say to our children: “Don’t speak to strangers.” But for a moment, let us sit back and reflect … We place them in front of the forbidden television screen and gladly allow a host of strangers to speak to them and to mould their minds and hearts. Their innocent minds are subjected to horror, shooting, killing, blood, bomb blasts, lewd and shameless behavior, and the list goes on. With time our children become immune to violence and they are tempted to act out the very scenes they have viewed. On one hand we will say to our children that alcohol is forbidden and having a relationship outside marriage is unlawful. But as a family we very casually sit around the television watching others drink alcohol and have unlawful relationships. It is time we realize the harm and damage that the television has brought to our lives and that of our innocent “angels.” Thus we should make a concerted effort to remove the means that are causing havoc in our lives and the lives of our children.

   

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