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Benefit of Pious Children

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Last Updated on Monday, 22 April 2013 11:43

Abu Hurairah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) used to constantly invite his mother towards the beauty of Islam so that she may also accept it. One day she uttered something against Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) which disturbed him greatly. He went crying to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) and said to him, “O Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam)!  Make du‘aa on behalf of my mother that Allah Ta‘ala blesses her with imaan.” Thus Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) made the following du‘aa, “O Allah! Guide the mother of Abu Hurairah.” He returned home happily but found the door of the house locked. From outside he heard the dripping of water as if someone was having a bath. When his mother heard the sound of his approach, she asked him to wait. After completing her bath, she opened the door and recited the kalimah. He was so overjoyed that he began crying out of happiness. (Saheeh Muslim #6396)

This is the great benefit of having pious children that they will be the means of our salvation as well. It is our duty to encourage them to acquire the knowledge of deen, and they will become the coolness of our eyes.

   

Pious Mothers for Tomorrow

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Last Updated on Sunday, 10 March 2013 11:31

There was a time when mothers were so cautious and protective over their daughters that many people in her very own locality were completely unaware that she even existed. Eventually when the marriage of the girl took place, the people of the town were surprised to find out that though they lived in the same town, they had no idea that so and so living in their neighbourhood had a daughter. The current system of education has inculcated the directly opposite aspiration in our young daughters. Today’s young girl wants to be known to the world. Thus she tries to have her name appearing in various publications. She wants the world to hear her on air, etc. The spirit of hayaa in Islam is that a woman keeps herself away from the public eye as far as possible. 

   

Punishment Injured His Pride

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Last Updated on Sunday, 27 January 2013 10:37

When a child does something wrong, the punishment needs to be meted out in such a way that the child develops an aversion to the misdeed and not to the person meting out the punishment. As adults we value our self-respect and we dislike being embarrassed before others. The child as well, likes to preserve his self-dignity and respect.

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Have I Given Up as a Parent?

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:20

Many parents nowadays have a common concern and complaint - they cannot speak to their children anymore. If they do try to speak to them, it ends up in a fight or argument. Thus most parents today have simply given up. However to “give up” is to abandon one’s duty and responsibility as a parent. To make an effort on our child is our duty. This is within our control. However the fruits of our efforts, that the child becomes rightly guided, depends on the command of Allah Ta’ala. This is definitely not within our control.

Since we have become so absorbed in wanting to see the fruits of our efforts, we have as a result given up the effort itself which was within our control. We must continue to encourage and advise our children. We should also constantly make du’aa for them and beseech Allah Ta’ala thus: “Oh Allah Ta’ala, You alone can guide and safeguard my child against the trials and challenges of the day.” Let us be positive by looking at the power of Allah Ta’ala and not be negative by looking at our own weaknesses.

   

No Children as Yet

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:19

To get married is in one’s control but having children is not in one’s control. While adopting the means is within our control, seeing the fruits of the means is out of our control. Allah Ta’ala alone controls everything. A person of Imaan will never get angry nor blame someone for something which is not in that person’s control. The doctor can only explain to the couple the possible reasons for them not having children. Thereafter he may prescribe various medical treatments. His expertise ends at this point. He cannot guarantee the couple that they will have a child. At times we get so engrossed in adopting the various means, that we unconsciously completely forget our Allah Ta’ala, the sole creator and controller of everything.

   

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