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Punishment Injured His Pride

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Last Updated on Sunday, 27 January 2013 10:37

When a child does something wrong, the punishment needs to be meted out in such a way that the child develops an aversion to the misdeed and not to the person meting out the punishment. As adults we value our self-respect and we dislike being embarrassed before others. The child as well, likes to preserve his self-dignity and respect.

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Holidays! Will my Child Survive?

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Last Updated on Thursday, 20 June 2013 08:57

“Holidays,” in the life of a child, simply means, “Freedom.” The child is no longer restricted by school and madrasah hours. Thus the child feels absolved of all forms of responsibility. This “freedom” makes the child very vulnerable to the attacks of nafs (the desire) and shaytaan (the devil). However our beautiful deen of Islam comes to our rescue. We are reminded of our daily duties as a Muslim. Our salaah, quraan, zikr and du’aa are the forts for our protection. Every parent’s concern is, “Will my child survive this holiday, in an environment of sin and temptation?”

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Have I Given Up as a Parent?

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:20

Many parents nowadays have a common concern and complaint - they cannot speak to their children anymore. If they do try to speak to them, it ends up in a fight or argument. Thus most parents today have simply given up. However to “give up” is to abandon one’s duty and responsibility as a parent. To make an effort on our child is our duty. This is within our control. However the fruits of our efforts, that the child becomes rightly guided, depends on the command of Allah Ta’ala. This is definitely not within our control.

Since we have become so absorbed in wanting to see the fruits of our efforts, we have as a result given up the effort itself which was within our control. We must continue to encourage and advise our children. We should also constantly make du’aa for them and beseech Allah Ta’ala thus: “Oh Allah Ta’ala, You alone can guide and safeguard my child against the trials and challenges of the day.” Let us be positive by looking at the power of Allah Ta’ala and not be negative by looking at our own weaknesses.

   

No Children as Yet

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:19

To get married is in one’s control but having children is not in one’s control. While adopting the means is within our control, seeing the fruits of the means is out of our control. Allah Ta’ala alone controls everything. A person of Imaan will never get angry nor blame someone for something which is not in that person’s control. The doctor can only explain to the couple the possible reasons for them not having children. Thereafter he may prescribe various medical treatments. His expertise ends at this point. He cannot guarantee the couple that they will have a child. At times we get so engrossed in adopting the various means, that we unconsciously completely forget our Allah Ta’ala, the sole creator and controller of everything.

   

Mother and Child, a Unique Bond

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Last Updated on Monday, 27 May 2013 14:14

The most precious wealth of any nation is its children. They are the future of any nation. Today they maybe playing on the laps of their mothers, but they are the very ones who will turn out to be the builders of tomorrow. The mother and child enjoy a unique bond, which in turn adds to the mother’s responsibility of nurturing her child. The mothers lap is either going to be a garden of good qualities from which her child will enjoy or a pit of evil habits that will haunt and take over the innocent child. If the mother is pious, she performs her salaah on time, daily she makes time for Quraan, zikr and du’aa, she displays good character and she stays away from sin, then automatically the child will follow the same pathway. It is not possible that a person plants flowers and only weeds will grow. The good we sow is the good we will harvest.

 
   

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