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No Children as Yet

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:19

To get married is in one’s control but having children is not in one’s control. While adopting the means is within our control, seeing the fruits of the means is out of our control. Allah Ta’ala alone controls everything. A person of Imaan will never get angry nor blame someone for something which is not in that person’s control. The doctor can only explain to the couple the possible reasons for them not having children. Thereafter he may prescribe various medical treatments. His expertise ends at this point. He cannot guarantee the couple that they will have a child. At times we get so engrossed in adopting the various means, that we unconsciously completely forget our Allah Ta’ala, the sole creator and controller of everything.

   

Mother and Child, a Unique Bond

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Last Updated on Monday, 27 May 2013 14:14

The most precious wealth of any nation is its children. They are the future of any nation. Today they maybe playing on the laps of their mothers, but they are the very ones who will turn out to be the builders of tomorrow. The mother and child enjoy a unique bond, which in turn adds to the mother’s responsibility of nurturing her child. The mothers lap is either going to be a garden of good qualities from which her child will enjoy or a pit of evil habits that will haunt and take over the innocent child. If the mother is pious, she performs her salaah on time, daily she makes time for Quraan, zikr and du’aa, she displays good character and she stays away from sin, then automatically the child will follow the same pathway. It is not possible that a person plants flowers and only weeds will grow. The good we sow is the good we will harvest.

 
   

Messed with Blue & Red Ink

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:21

Imagine a child going for the first time to his father’s desk. The exciting pens, the pencils, eraser, letter-opener, etc. are all neatly arranged on one side. He begins to explore and investigate the use of each item. In a few minutes the entire place is in a mess. He also turns the inkpot upside down and the ink runs on his fingers, onto the papers, the desk and the carpet. The child obviously had no idea of the consequence of his innocent explorations. Gripped with fear , the child now starts wiping the ink off his fingers on the front of his clothes and he hastily starts wiping the ink off other items using whatever pieces of paper available to him. 

Now, what should your reaction be, to this child? Should you scream at him for his innocence? You judge for yourself. Would punishing such a child not be unfair to him? His curiosity got the better of him. He made a mistake. He did not know the reality of what he was doing. Would it not be better to sit with him and explain to him the wrong he has done, the mess he has made and the danger of exploring things on his own?

   

Goodness brings Goodness

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:23

The conditions affecting the mother during pregnancy tend to affect the child within her as well. Infact, some physicians are of the impression that the conditions affecting the parent during intercourse affect the habits and disposition of the child as well.

Therefore during pregnancy, the mother should ponder at length over the religious achievements of some pious personality. This, will Insha-Allah Ta’ala produce a pious off-spring. If both parents perform their Fajr salaah in the morning following the night of conception, Insha-Allah Ta’ala the child will be obedient to Allah Ta’ala. If Fajr salaah is missed, there is a fear that their children will be disobedient to them, just as they have been disobedient to their Allah Ta’ala. As parents, we are the gardeners of our children. What we plant today will be harvested tomorrow. Our lives of goodness will bring such children into this world that are also full of goodness.

   

Beat the children with love

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:23

Hakeemul-Ummah Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullahi alahi) used to say, : ‘When someone becomes my follower, my main concern and worry is not to reform that person, instead my first concern is to embed my love in that persons heart since if he loves me, he will obey me.’ Similarly, once the child loves his parents, he will be prepared to do anything for them. To get angry with one’s child and to chase him out of the home may not be an effective form of punishment. In fact in many cases the child will be too happy to be away from the angry nagging parents. Yes, if the child loves the parent, then the slight displeasure of the parent is sufficient to stop the child from further displeasing the parent. In this era we need to “beat” our children with love, mercy and kindness or else we may loose them.

   

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