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Beat the children with love

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:23

Hakeemul-Ummah Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullahi alahi) used to say, : ‘When someone becomes my follower, my main concern and worry is not to reform that person, instead my first concern is to embed my love in that persons heart since if he loves me, he will obey me.’ Similarly, once the child loves his parents, he will be prepared to do anything for them. To get angry with one’s child and to chase him out of the home may not be an effective form of punishment. In fact in many cases the child will be too happy to be away from the angry nagging parents. Yes, if the child loves the parent, then the slight displeasure of the parent is sufficient to stop the child from further displeasing the parent. In this era we need to “beat” our children with love, mercy and kindness or else we may loose them.

   

Are we Chasing away the Angels

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:25

Angels of mercy do not enter a house that contains pictures of animate objects. Nowadays, children’s bedding, clothing, curtaining, stationery and toys are all covered with animals, actors, cartoons and characters. The human mind is such that by us continuously gazing at these pictures, an impression is left in our minds. These impressions over a period of time become our thoughts, words and actions. At times we are shocked at our child’s behavior, not realizing that our child is simply imitating a cartoon character who we have introduced the child to. Hours in front of the forbidden television screen adds fuel to the child’s love for cartoon characters and inculcates shameless and disrespectful behaviour in him/her. We teach our children not to speak to strangers, but we allow a host of strangers to keep our children entertained for hours on end in the form of the forbidden television screen. Thus they learn what the strangers tell them and act accordingly.

   

Stress Free Pregnancy

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:26

The moment a woman’s pregnancy is confirmed, she should express her gratitude to Allah Ta’ala, as this is indeed a great bounty of Allah Ta’ala. She should cast aside sorrows and she should try and stay happy at all times. The expectant mother should protect herself from daily disputes with the mother-in-law and sister-in-law or other members of the family. Her relationship with her husband should be one of obedience.

 She should maintain friendly and trouble free relationships with all. If she hurts someone, she should immediately apologize and forget about the dispute. She cannot afford to hold back a grudge or an ill feeling, as the evil effect of this will fall on the child she is carrying. As a true expression of gratitude to Allah Ta’ala, she should  stay away from all sin, such as the sin of not covering  herself with a veil, watching television, neglecting her salaah, living to show others, etc. Her entire life must become one of obedience and gratitude to Allah Ta’ala.

   

Happy homes produce Happy children

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:27

Happy couples make happy homes. Happy homes produce happy children. Happy children in turn form happy communities. Happy communities make the world a better place to stay  in.   Everything starts off with us as a couple. We are the foundation of the home. If we allow the home to be disciplined then the community will be disciplined. If our domestic life is in  order then our life outside the home will also be in order. Children’s minds are very delicate and sensitive. They very quickly sense any form of tension that may exist between us as  parents. As adults daily we may fight and argue, forgive and forget, and our lives continue as normal. However when it comes to children, any form of abuse that takes place in their presence, has a major negative impact on their minds and life as a whole. Thus as parents it is important that we maintain a happy and friendly environment within our home.

   

Comfort in Old Age

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Last Updated on Thursday, 29 March 2012 08:52

A person once went to visit an elderly man. He was living in a beautiful palatial home. He had servants all around him to feed him, serve him and to see to his needs. Outwardly it seemed that he was living a dream life which every man desires. However, reality proved to be the completely opposite. With a very heavy heart he said,

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