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Messed with Blue & Red Ink

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:21

Imagine a child going for the first time to his father’s desk. The exciting pens, the pencils, eraser, letter-opener, etc. are all neatly arranged on one side. He begins to explore and investigate the use of each item. In a few minutes the entire place is in a mess. He also turns the inkpot upside down and the ink runs on his fingers, onto the papers, the desk and the carpet. The child obviously had no idea of the consequence of his innocent explorations. Gripped with fear , the child now starts wiping the ink off his fingers on the front of his clothes and he hastily starts wiping the ink off other items using whatever pieces of paper available to him. 

Now, what should your reaction be, to this child? Should you scream at him for his innocence? You judge for yourself. Would punishing such a child not be unfair to him? His curiosity got the better of him. He made a mistake. He did not know the reality of what he was doing. Would it not be better to sit with him and explain to him the wrong he has done, the mess he has made and the danger of exploring things on his own?

   

Goodness brings Goodness

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:23

The conditions affecting the mother during pregnancy tend to affect the child within her as well. Infact, some physicians are of the impression that the conditions affecting the parent during intercourse affect the habits and disposition of the child as well.

Therefore during pregnancy, the mother should ponder at length over the religious achievements of some pious personality. This, will Insha-Allah Ta’ala produce a pious off-spring. If both parents perform their Fajr salaah in the morning following the night of conception, Insha-Allah Ta’ala the child will be obedient to Allah Ta’ala. If Fajr salaah is missed, there is a fear that their children will be disobedient to them, just as they have been disobedient to their Allah Ta’ala. As parents, we are the gardeners of our children. What we plant today will be harvested tomorrow. Our lives of goodness will bring such children into this world that are also full of goodness.

   

Beat the children with love

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:23

Hakeemul-Ummah Hazrat Moulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (rahmatullahi alahi) used to say, : ‘When someone becomes my follower, my main concern and worry is not to reform that person, instead my first concern is to embed my love in that persons heart since if he loves me, he will obey me.’ Similarly, once the child loves his parents, he will be prepared to do anything for them. To get angry with one’s child and to chase him out of the home may not be an effective form of punishment. In fact in many cases the child will be too happy to be away from the angry nagging parents. Yes, if the child loves the parent, then the slight displeasure of the parent is sufficient to stop the child from further displeasing the parent. In this era we need to “beat” our children with love, mercy and kindness or else we may loose them.

   

Are we Chasing away the Angels

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:25

Angels of mercy do not enter a house that contains pictures of animate objects. Nowadays, children’s bedding, clothing, curtaining, stationery and toys are all covered with animals, actors, cartoons and characters. The human mind is such that by us continuously gazing at these pictures, an impression is left in our minds. These impressions over a period of time become our thoughts, words and actions. At times we are shocked at our child’s behavior, not realizing that our child is simply imitating a cartoon character who we have introduced the child to. Hours in front of the forbidden television screen adds fuel to the child’s love for cartoon characters and inculcates shameless and disrespectful behaviour in him/her. We teach our children not to speak to strangers, but we allow a host of strangers to keep our children entertained for hours on end in the form of the forbidden television screen. Thus they learn what the strangers tell them and act accordingly.

   

Stress Free Pregnancy

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 February 2013 10:26

The moment a woman’s pregnancy is confirmed, she should express her gratitude to Allah Ta’ala, as this is indeed a great bounty of Allah Ta’ala. She should cast aside sorrows and she should try and stay happy at all times. The expectant mother should protect herself from daily disputes with the mother-in-law and sister-in-law or other members of the family. Her relationship with her husband should be one of obedience.

 She should maintain friendly and trouble free relationships with all. If she hurts someone, she should immediately apologize and forget about the dispute. She cannot afford to hold back a grudge or an ill feeling, as the evil effect of this will fall on the child she is carrying. As a true expression of gratitude to Allah Ta’ala, she should  stay away from all sin, such as the sin of not covering  herself with a veil, watching television, neglecting her salaah, living to show others, etc. Her entire life must become one of obedience and gratitude to Allah Ta’ala.

   

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