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Have I Given Up as a Parent?

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Many parents nowadays have a common concern and complaint - they cannot speak to their children anymore. If they do try to speak to them, it ends up in a fight or argument. Thus most parents today have simply given up. However to “give up” is to abandon one’s duty and responsibility as a parent. To make an effort on our child is our duty. This is within our control. However the fruits of our efforts, that the child becomes rightly guided, depends on the command of Allah Ta’ala. This is definitely not within our control.

Since we have become so absorbed in wanting to see the fruits of our efforts, we have as a result given up the effort itself which was within our control. We must continue to encourage and advise our children. We should also constantly make du’aa for them and beseech Allah Ta’ala thus: “Oh Allah Ta’ala, You alone can guide and safeguard my child against the trials and challenges of the day.” Let us be positive by looking at the power of Allah Ta’ala and not be negative by looking at our own weaknesses.