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Rules of a Muslim Home (#5) - Seeking Permission

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Last Updated on Monday, 27 May 2013 14:06

A home is a place where one finds peace. Allah Ta‘ala Himself declares in the Holy Quraan that He has created homes for us to acquire peace and comfort. One can only enjoy this peace and comfort if one is safe from unnecessary interferences and disturbances. Islam has taught us a very important etiquette in this regard which is called “isti’zaan” (to seek permission before entering a home). This will ensure that the privacy of the inmates of the home is not violated.  

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Rules of a Muslim Home (#4) - Tarbiyah of our Families (Part Three)

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 05 March 2013 15:12

How do we make the tarbiyah of our children (continued)?

5. Cell Phones and Computers: Be extremely cautious about giving them cell phones and allowing them free usage of the computer. If under extreme circumstances they are forced to use the cell phone or the computer, then this should be allowed only under your strict supervision. These modern day tools are like dangerous weapons which can be detrimental to the child’s Imaan. 

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Rules of a Muslim Home (#4) - Tarbiyah of our Families (Part Two)

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Last Updated on Saturday, 23 February 2013 10:14

How do we make the tarbiyah of our children?

1. Win their confidence: Firstly we have to win the confidence of our children. This can be obtained by adopting the characteristics mentioned in part one. By winning their confidence, they will take their parents as their role models and take to heart whatever advices are given to them. 

2. Narrate to them incidents of the pious: Stories play a vital role in moulding the mind of a child. Whatever a child hears in the form of a story is more impressionable than just mere facts. Daily fix some time to read an incident from the lives of the Ambiyaa (alaihimus salaam), Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum), and the Salafus Saaliheen (pious predecessors) before putting them to bed. This is extremely beneficial. Experience bears testimony that this method is very effective for tarbiyah. The greatest benefit of narrating stories to children is that it instils the value of deen into their minds and hearts. After narrating the incident, explain to them the morals or the lessons learnt there from. 

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Rules of a Muslim Home (#4) - Tarbiyah of Our Families (Part One)

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Last Updated on Saturday, 23 February 2013 09:59

Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aan: "O you who have Imaan! Save yourselves and your families from the fire (of Jahannum)."

We understand from this aayah the importance of the proper Islamic tarbiyah (nuturing) of our families.

The main cause of children being spoilt is our lack of interest in their tarbiyah. It is the incumbent responsibility of both the parents to bring up and nurture their children Islamically. However, a greater responsibility lies upon the mother, since the children grow up mainly in her care.

Parents should try and gain the maximum out of their children by moulding their behaviour in accordance with the Shari’ah. Besides benefiting the children it will also benefit us. Whatever good accrues from them, we will also have a share in the reward they attain. Every salaah they perform, every aayah of the Qur’aan they recite and every other good deed that they may perform, a share of the reward will be reserved for us as well.

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Rules of a Muslim Home (#3) - Speaking in a Soft Tone

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Last Updated on Saturday, 23 February 2013 09:59

The Quraan Majeed declares that Allah Ta’ala has made the home of a believer a place of peace and tranquillity (Surah Nahl, v80). Thus we understand that among the etiquettes of a Muslim home is that members of the household refrain from doing anything that destroys the peace and tranquillity. This includes thoughtless and loud disturbing speech. 

It is mentioned in a Hadith that “A Muslim is he who other Muslims are safe from the harms of his tongue and his hands.” (Saheeh Bukhari #9) 

People living in the same house are more than neighbours and more than just friends. Therefore, it is imperative that they should not hurt one another in any way. Among the most annoying and hurtful behaviour is making noise at home or raising one’s voice so loudly that it distresses others. 

A woman, especially, should be extra careful when speaking. Speaking in a loud tone shows a lack of self-respect and modesty in women. If due to some necessity she has to raise her voice, and there is a fear of strange men listening to it, then she should be careful not to talk in a seductive tone. Rather her speech should be short but not sweet.

Allah Ta’ala has mentioned in the Quraan Majeed addressing the pure wives of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam):

“Do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire” (Ahzaab, v32)

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