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Focus on the Favours

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Last Updated on Thursday, 02 March 2017 06:41

There was once a master who asked his servant to bring him a melon. When the melon was brought and sliced before the master, he picked a slice and gave it to the servant who ate it with relish. The master, on seeing the enjoyment with which the servant was eating the slice, thought to himself, “The melon must be extremely sweet!” However, the moment he placed a slice in his mouth, he was forced to spit it out as it was extremely bitter! The master, wiping his mouth, turned to the servant and asked him, “How could you show so much of enjoyment over something so bitter?” The servant replied, “Master! You fed me the sweetest of dishes on countless occasions! How could I express dissatisfaction on this one, single occasion?”

If every couple can make this their mindset, then even when faced with the bitterest of experiences, the sweet memories of all their spouse’s virtues and favours, on all the other occasions, will assist them to overlook and forgive each other.

   

A Partnership of Improvement

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Last Updated on Thursday, 19 January 2017 09:02

There are many different partnerships in this world, and each has its own purpose. The purpose of a business partnership is to make money, while the purpose of a political partnership is to gain dominance, power and rulership.

Similarly, nikaah is a life-long partnership which has multiple objectives. If raising the Muslims of tomorrow and gaining financial and social security are considered as objectives, then one of the primary objectives of nikaah, without a doubt, is definitely that of the imaan and Deen of the spouses to become complete and remain protected. Hence, a marriage in which each passing day finds the Deeni condition of the spouses better than it was the previous day is a successful marriage.  Conversely, a marriage in which the husband and wife invite, tempt and encourage one another to engage in sin is an unsuccessful marriage.

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Keeping the Spark Alive

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Last Updated on Thursday, 01 December 2016 06:31

When a couple just get married, they experience the feelings of romance and excitement that accompany the phenomenon of being newly-wed. Hence they constantly think about each other, continuously send messages to each other and keep giving each other gifts.

As time passes, however, and life settles into its routine, these initial feelings of excitement fade. While this is perfectly normal and nothing to feel depressed over, as a person cannot constantly live in ‘honeymoon’ mode, it does not necessarily mean that the spark in the marriage has to die out completely. Rather, by maintaining the spark in the marriage, the husband and wife will continue to find satisfaction in each other and the chances of them falling into haraam will be decreased. Hence, even when maintaining the spark, our intention should be that we are doing this out of appreciation for the gift of marriage which Allah Ta‘ala has given us and to ensure that we do not fall into haraam. By making the correct intention, even these seemingly mundane actions will become a means of reward.

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A Soulless Ceremony

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Last Updated on Thursday, 20 October 2016 15:48

There was once a father who had just a single daughter. Being his only child, she was absolutely dear to him and the apple of his eye. When she finally came of age and was proposed in marriage, he was so eager to throw her a wedding that she would never forget that he commenced the wedding preparation one year in advance!

Instead of cards, invitations were engraved into small slabs of marble and hand delivered to all the guests. The utensils in which the food was served were embossed with the names of the bride and groom so that the guests could take them home after the function and keep them as souvenirs!

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Kitchen Specialist

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Last Updated on Thursday, 28 July 2016 15:45

As housewives, many of us pride ourselves on our expertise and culinary creativity in the kitchen. We expend all effort in presenting our husbands with delicious dishes, tantalizing treats and decadent desserts that seduce the senses. Thus when it comes to winning the hearts of our husbands through their stomachs, we not only succeed but thoroughly excel.

Now imagine for a moment that you spent hours and hours in preparing and decorating an elaborate, multi tiered cake – only to stumble and drop it and watch it smash to bits a few feet from the door of its intended destination. Wouldn’t you feel devastated and whole heartedly disappointed to watch the product of your labours disintegrate in just a few moments?

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