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A Sweet and Simple Nikaah

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Last Updated on Thursday, 21 September 2017 15:24

Sa‘eed bin Musayyab (rahimahullah) was an illustrious Taabi‘ee who was the son-in-law and student of Sayyiduna Abu Hurairah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu).

Abu Wadaa‘ah (rahimahullah) narrates the following:

I would regularly sit in the gathering of Sa‘eed bin Musayyab (rahimahullah). However, there was once a period during which I remained absent for a few days. On my return, Sa‘eed bin Musayyab (rahimahullah) asked me, “Where were you?” I replied, “My wife passed away and I was thus preoccupied (with the funeral).” Hearing that my wife had passed away, Sa‘eed bin Musayyab (rahimahullah) exclaimed, “Why did you not inform me of her demise so that I could have attended the funeral!”

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Boundaries in the Bedroom

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Last Updated on Thursday, 10 August 2017 16:03

Imagine a person who hires a security guard to protect his home and family, only for the very same guard to later on become the greatest danger and threat to their safety! Imagine a person who daily takes a multi-vitamin supplement in order to improve his health, only for the very same supplement to later on become the cause of his health deteriorating, leading to his death!

In a similar vein, the hadeeth teaches us that one of the main purposes and benefits of nikaah is that it safeguards a person from falling into the sin of zina and other sins related to lust. However, this purpose will be defeated if a person fails to realize that even life within the bedroom has limits. A person’s bedroom life need not be ‘dry’. But on the same token, it is not necessary to resort to bedroom activities that are either outright haraam or totally unnatural and filthy in order to gain satisfaction. We are all aware that the husband may only seek satisfaction in his wife, and the wife may only seek satisfaction in her husband. But, this does not mean that they may satisfy themselves in any and every manner they please!

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Focus on the Favours

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Last Updated on Thursday, 02 March 2017 06:41

There was once a master who asked his servant to bring him a melon. When the melon was brought and sliced before the master, he picked a slice and gave it to the servant who ate it with relish. The master, on seeing the enjoyment with which the servant was eating the slice, thought to himself, “The melon must be extremely sweet!” However, the moment he placed a slice in his mouth, he was forced to spit it out as it was extremely bitter! The master, wiping his mouth, turned to the servant and asked him, “How could you show so much of enjoyment over something so bitter?” The servant replied, “Master! You fed me the sweetest of dishes on countless occasions! How could I express dissatisfaction on this one, single occasion?”

If every couple can make this their mindset, then even when faced with the bitterest of experiences, the sweet memories of all their spouse’s virtues and favours, on all the other occasions, will assist them to overlook and forgive each other.

   

A Partnership of Improvement

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Last Updated on Thursday, 19 January 2017 09:02

There are many different partnerships in this world, and each has its own purpose. The purpose of a business partnership is to make money, while the purpose of a political partnership is to gain dominance, power and rulership.

Similarly, nikaah is a life-long partnership which has multiple objectives. If raising the Muslims of tomorrow and gaining financial and social security are considered as objectives, then one of the primary objectives of nikaah, without a doubt, is definitely that of the imaan and Deen of the spouses to become complete and remain protected. Hence, a marriage in which each passing day finds the Deeni condition of the spouses better than it was the previous day is a successful marriage.  Conversely, a marriage in which the husband and wife invite, tempt and encourage one another to engage in sin is an unsuccessful marriage.

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Keeping the Spark Alive

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Last Updated on Thursday, 01 December 2016 06:31

When a couple just get married, they experience the feelings of romance and excitement that accompany the phenomenon of being newly-wed. Hence they constantly think about each other, continuously send messages to each other and keep giving each other gifts.

As time passes, however, and life settles into its routine, these initial feelings of excitement fade. While this is perfectly normal and nothing to feel depressed over, as a person cannot constantly live in ‘honeymoon’ mode, it does not necessarily mean that the spark in the marriage has to die out completely. Rather, by maintaining the spark in the marriage, the husband and wife will continue to find satisfaction in each other and the chances of them falling into haraam will be decreased. Hence, even when maintaining the spark, our intention should be that we are doing this out of appreciation for the gift of marriage which Allah Ta‘ala has given us and to ensure that we do not fall into haraam. By making the correct intention, even these seemingly mundane actions will become a means of reward.

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