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Marriage Survival Kit

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 25 September 2013 14:35

Do not demand your rights. Discharge your obligations!

Keep smiling. It is act of charity!

Express praise and gratitude. All human beings share the same basic needs: To feel appreciated, respected and loved!

Never compare your spouse with others. The grass always looks greener on the other side!

Never bring up past problems that were resolved. They only cloud the future!

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Be Positive!

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Last Updated on Thursday, 12 September 2013 15:35

The husband and wife should both protect themselves from negative thinking. The one who is positive sees everything in good spirits, whereas the one who is negative sees everything falling apart. A positive person enjoys the beauty of the rose, whilst a negative person continues to complain about the thorn beneath it.

If the husband and wife have a negative mind, then every word and move of any of the spouses will be a means of pain to the other. Everything will then be misinterpreted and will become a point of dispute. Don’t be like the wife who once told her husband: “Today I really saw a pious man. He was flying in the sky.” When the husband replied: “That was me,” she immediately responded: “I was wondering why he was flying so crooked.”

We simply need to become more positive. Before doing anything negative or jumping to any conclusion, reflect as to where this negativity will lead us to. Be positive. Insha-Allah you will enjoy positive outcomes.

   

Answer Anger with Sweetness

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Last Updated on Thursday, 06 June 2013 09:27

If the husband becomes angry and abusive, never react in the same way. If both husband and wife end up exchanging harsh words, then this results in a very bitter end. When both vent their anger and become abusive, pride and stubbornness overcomes them. Neither of them is then prepared to accept their fault and ask for forgiveness. However if the wife replies to the husband’s anger with sweetness and kindness, then most definitely when he does cool down, he will realise his mistake and he will ask for forgiveness. Sweetness invites sweetness, whereas anger adds fuel to the fire of anger.

   

I’m Sorry

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Last Updated on Thursday, 16 May 2013 09:06

Generally many people find it very difficult to accept their mistakes if it is pointed out to them by their spouse. They will try in every possible way to justify the wrong. If we adopt this manner we may please our ego, but we will not improve ourselves in anyway, and will only affect our marriage negatively. On the contrary, if we calmly consider what the spouse has said instead of going on the attack, this will save us from many futile arguments and fights. Over time we will become better people and as a couple greater understanding and love will be created. May Allah Ta‘ala help us to accept our wrong rather than trying to justify it.

   

Difficulty in Freedom

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 30 April 2013 11:56

Addressing the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum), Allah Ta‘ala says: “Know well that the Rasul of Allah Ta‘ala is in your midst (referring to the time when he lived with them). If he (Nabi sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) were to obey you in many matters, you would face difficulty (ie. if he had to obey your whims, this would lead to you falling into much difficulty). (Surah Hujuraat, v7)

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