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Answer Anger with Sweetness

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Last Updated on Thursday, 06 June 2013 09:27

If the husband becomes angry and abusive, never react in the same way. If both husband and wife end up exchanging harsh words, then this results in a very bitter end. When both vent their anger and become abusive, pride and stubbornness overcomes them. Neither of them is then prepared to accept their fault and ask for forgiveness. However if the wife replies to the husband’s anger with sweetness and kindness, then most definitely when he does cool down, he will realise his mistake and he will ask for forgiveness. Sweetness invites sweetness, whereas anger adds fuel to the fire of anger.

   

I’m Sorry

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Last Updated on Thursday, 16 May 2013 09:06

Generally many people find it very difficult to accept their mistakes if it is pointed out to them by their spouse. They will try in every possible way to justify the wrong. If we adopt this manner we may please our ego, but we will not improve ourselves in anyway, and will only affect our marriage negatively. On the contrary, if we calmly consider what the spouse has said instead of going on the attack, this will save us from many futile arguments and fights. Over time we will become better people and as a couple greater understanding and love will be created. May Allah Ta‘ala help us to accept our wrong rather than trying to justify it.

   

Difficulty in Freedom

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 30 April 2013 11:56

Addressing the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum), Allah Ta‘ala says: “Know well that the Rasul of Allah Ta‘ala is in your midst (referring to the time when he lived with them). If he (Nabi sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) were to obey you in many matters, you would face difficulty (ie. if he had to obey your whims, this would lead to you falling into much difficulty). (Surah Hujuraat, v7)

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Parting Advice to the Daughter

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 16 April 2013 11:19

O My beloved daughter! The coolness of my eyes and the comfort of my heart!

You were entrusted to us and now we hand you over to the custody of Allah and the care of your husband

You are about to depart from a life that you were accustomed to; from parents who loved you and will always love you, from brothers and sisters who will forever miss you

You are going to a house that is completely strange to you; to a com¬panion that is really unknown to you

Our du‘aas and blessings are with you

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Why Dig Up The Past?

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Last Updated on Thursday, 14 March 2013 12:00

While the disagreements and fights that take place amongst women may not be of a violent nature, they indeed become very prolonged affairs. Their displeasure and ill feelings continue for an extended period of time. What makes matters even worse is the habit of women to dig up the past. Issues which were resolved and forgotten a long time ago are brought up again. As a result a small issue becomes a major problem, especially when past events are recalled and mentioned in harsh and heart - piercing words. To rub salt in the wound she will then also remind the husband of all the favours and good she did for him. All this is done only to please one’s nafs (carnal desire) and shaytaan. It is time we suppress our words of anger and please our most loving Allah Ta‘ala.

   

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