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Keeping the Spark Alive

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Last Updated on Thursday, 01 December 2016 06:31

When a couple just get married, they experience the feelings of romance and excitement that accompany the phenomenon of being newly-wed. Hence they constantly think about each other, continuously send messages to each other and keep giving each other gifts.

As time passes, however, and life settles into its routine, these initial feelings of excitement fade. While this is perfectly normal and nothing to feel depressed over, as a person cannot constantly live in ‘honeymoon’ mode, it does not necessarily mean that the spark in the marriage has to die out completely. Rather, by maintaining the spark in the marriage, the husband and wife will continue to find satisfaction in each other and the chances of them falling into haraam will be decreased. Hence, even when maintaining the spark, our intention should be that we are doing this out of appreciation for the gift of marriage which Allah Ta‘ala has given us and to ensure that we do not fall into haraam. By making the correct intention, even these seemingly mundane actions will become a means of reward.

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A Soulless Ceremony

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Last Updated on Thursday, 20 October 2016 15:48

There was once a father who had just a single daughter. Being his only child, she was absolutely dear to him and the apple of his eye. When she finally came of age and was proposed in marriage, he was so eager to throw her a wedding that she would never forget that he commenced the wedding preparation one year in advance!

Instead of cards, invitations were engraved into small slabs of marble and hand delivered to all the guests. The utensils in which the food was served were embossed with the names of the bride and groom so that the guests could take them home after the function and keep them as souvenirs!

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Kitchen Specialist

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Last Updated on Thursday, 28 July 2016 15:45

As housewives, many of us pride ourselves on our expertise and culinary creativity in the kitchen. We expend all effort in presenting our husbands with delicious dishes, tantalizing treats and decadent desserts that seduce the senses. Thus when it comes to winning the hearts of our husbands through their stomachs, we not only succeed but thoroughly excel.

Now imagine for a moment that you spent hours and hours in preparing and decorating an elaborate, multi tiered cake – only to stumble and drop it and watch it smash to bits a few feet from the door of its intended destination. Wouldn’t you feel devastated and whole heartedly disappointed to watch the product of your labours disintegrate in just a few moments?

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Ten Steps to Winning his Heart

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Last Updated on Thursday, 28 April 2016 12:19

‘Amr bin Hujr Kindi had sent a proposal to ‘Auf bin Muhallam Shaibaanee asking for the hand of his daughter, Ummu Iyaas, in marriage. On receiving the proposal, the father of Ummu Iyaas, ‘Auf, decided to accept it.

When the night arrived for Ummu Iyaas to leave her parents’ home and depart for the home of her husband, her mother came to her and said, “O my beloved daughter! You are about to leave the home in which you were born and the ‘nest’ which you have now outgrown. You are going to live with a man whom you do not know and a companion with whom you are unfamiliar. You should therefore become his slave girl so that he will, in turn, become your slave. Pay special attention to the following ten aspects as you will find them to be a great resource in assisting you to enjoy a happy marriage: 

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The Marriage Carriage

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Last Updated on Friday, 18 March 2016 10:16

Marriage is one amazing journey...

The fuel for the first half of the journey is love while the fuel for the second half of the journey is mercy.

Marriage initially takes off as a beautiful, novel experience in which you enjoy the thrills and frills.

With age, the couple turn over to a new page called “old age” which is certainly not some cold cage. Rather, it is a stage where a sage will wage no rage.

A true couple will happily and carefully work around moments of pain and agony. With patience and intelligence, they will learn to give and forgive, let and forget.

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