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The Road to a Happy Marriage (Part1 - Ahaadeeth & Obedience)

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Ahaadeeth:

Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The woman who offers her five times salaah, fasts in the month of Ramadaan, protects her honour and obeys her husband, has the choice of entering Jannah from whichever door she wishes to enter from” (Ibnu Hibbaan #4163). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The woman who passes away in such a state that her husband is happy with her will enter Jannah” (Tirmizi #1161). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) also said: “If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone besides Allah Ta’ala, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband. If the husband orders the wife to carry the boulders of one mountain to the next and then to a third, she should do so” (Ibnu Maajah #1852).

Obedience:

1. Obey your husband in all permissible matters. This will draw the mercy of Allah Ta’ala. Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “After the Taqwa (fear) of Allah Ta’ala, there is no favour that a believer may enjoy better than a pious wife. If he instructs her she obeys him, if he looks towards her, she brings delight to him, if he takes an oath for her to do something she carries it out and if he is away from her (on a journey, etc.) she acts in good faith regarding her personal self and his wealth” (Ibnu Maajah #1857).

2. Never regard your obedience and service to your husband in mundane acts as insignificant. In fulfilling his wishes, you are obeying the command of Allah Ta’ala who has made incumbent upon you total obedience to your husband (in permissible matters). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said to a woman: “Your husband is either your Jannah or your Jahannum” (Muwatta Imaam Muhammamad #951).

3. Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “When a woman leaves home against the desire of her husband, then all the angels in the skies and everything she walks past besides man and jinn curse her for this act until she returns home” (Majma`uz Zawaaid #7669).

4. Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “When a husband calls his wife to bed (at night for sexual relations) and she refuses (without any valid shar'ee reason) because of which he spends the night angry, then the angels curse her till the morning” (Bukhaari #3237)