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“A Muslimah's Guide to Living a Blissful Life” comprises of guidelines for young Muslim girls extracted from Husn-e-Mu'aasharat by Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah). For further details, click here.

The Manner of Raising and Educating Young Girls in the Past? (Part 1)

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Last Updated on Thursday, 11 April 2019 09:20

In the past, it was the norm for mothers to call their daughters and make them sit in their company. They would speak to their daughters and discuss things that were interesting, enjoyable and light-hearted. They would make them memorize those surahs of the Quraan Majeed that are generally recited in salaah and would gradually make them practice on the various laws, injunctions and obligations of Deen.

Once the mothers were satisfied (and confident that their daughters had acquired the Deeni knowledge that they would require in life), they would then commence teaching them social etiquettes and the correct manner of interacting with different people. They would keep a perpetual watch on the manner in which their daughters conducted with people and would scrutinize their daughters’ every action and behaviour.

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Emulating the Elders​

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Last Updated on Thursday, 28 February 2019 16:06

“A Muslimah’s Guide to Living a Blissful Life” by Sayyidah Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) #6

My dear daughters! Carefully observe your elders and learn intelligence from them. Strive to become like them and imbibe modesty, bashfulness, intelligence and wisdom. By doing this, you will attain success and prosperity in this world and the next. Furthermore, you will lead a life of respect, happiness and dignity.

Until good and bad examples are not placed before you and a comparison is made between them, you will not gain a true understanding. Similarly, until you are not given a complete description of how things were in the past, and the manner in which people of the past lived, interacted and socialized, and how they educated and raised their children, and until the mannerisms and ways of the young girls of those times is not clearly outlined before you, you will never understand and will not be able to instil those qualities within yourself that are in actual fact the essence of being a civilized human being. Likewise, you will be unable to correct your weaknesses (and improve your character). 

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The Importance of Intelligence and Hayaa​

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Last Updated on Thursday, 07 February 2019 16:12

“A Muslimah’s Guide to Living a Blissful Life” by Sayyidah Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) #5

I first wish to discuss and address those weaknesses of yours which are not inherent (i.e. they are not a part of your nature), but are rather found in you due to some external factor. Although your parents have neglected to address these weaknesses and faults within you, the day will definitely dawn when the ill-effects of these weaknesses will be witnessed.

It may be that though you are unaware of it, you have the weaknesses of bad character, carelessness, negligence, selfishness, love for luxury, lack of etiquette and respect, miserliness and haughtiness. These weaknesses are such that you may not necessarily perceive them now, but as time passes and you grow older, they will become more and more poisonous. At that point, you will have no friends and nobody will want to associate with you.

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Service and Obedience to Parents​

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 01 January 2019 10:35

“A Muslimah’s Guide to Living a Blissful Life” by Sayyidah Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) #4

- Serve your parents in an excellent and exemplary manner.

- Ensure that they are not inconvenienced at any time.

- When cooking for them, prepare the dishes that they enjoy eating and serve them their meals on time.

- When they tell you something then listen attentively and accept it wholeheartedly.

- If they are busy or engaged in some activity, then do not disturb them.

- If they have the habit of eating or drinking something at a particular time (e.g. tea or coffee), then prepare it for them and serve it to them at that time.

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An Address to Young Girls (Part 2)​

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Last Updated on Saturday, 01 December 2018 09:13

“A Muslimah’s Guide to Living a Blissful Life” by Sayyidah Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) #3

My dear daughters! I do realise that (even if you do not prepare yourself while in your parents’ home, then) the day will eventually come when you will have improved, acquired the skills that you need and learnt what you need to know. As time passes, your weaknesses will transform into skills, because you will learn from the difficulties that you underwent and the mistakes that you made. However, of what good will it be, when people who wished well for you and had aspirations in you would no longer be around? It is my aspiration that you begin, from now, acquiring all the qualities and skills that will shield you from the challenges and difficulties that you will face later on.

If you think that you ‘know it all’, and you will be able to deal with the demand of every occasion, then you are absolutely wrong and mistaken, even though you may have occasionally sewed yourself an outfit, or cut out the draft and design of a garment, or cooked a pot of food now and again, or embroidered on a kurta, topi or purse at some point, or you learnt to read the Quraan Majeed and a few kitaabs in some madrasah and then left, and let alone understanding the kitaabs – you did not even know what subject the kitaab was written on! Can this ever be regarded as capability, and can such a person be considered competent? If someone has to ask you a question, then you will be left speechless.

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