Behind a Great Man is a Great Woman

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One night while Ameerul Mu’mineen Umar bin Khattab (radiyallahu anhu) was doing his rounds in Madinah Munawwarah, he leaned against a wall and overheard a unique conversation between a young girl and her mother. The mother instructed the girl to add water to the milk that was to be sold the next day. The girl replied: “O my mother! Aren’t you aware of the order that Ameerul Mu’mineen has passed today?” The mother inquired as to what was the order. The daughter replied: “He ordered someone to announce that water should not be added to milk (since this was deception).” The mother said to her: “O my daughter! Just add the water since you are in such a place where neither Umar can see you nor the one who has made the announcement on his behalf.” The daughter replied: “O my beloved mother! I cannot be so dishonest to obey him in open and disobey him in private.” 

After listening to the entire conversation Umar (radiyallahu anhu) asked his servant Aslam to remember the location of the house. The next morning Umar (radiyallahu anhu) sent his servant to enquire whether the girl was married or not? When Umar (radiyallahu anhu) found out that the girl was unmarried he gathered his sons and said: “If your father had an urge for marriage he would have been the first to marry this girl. Now which of you require a wife, since it is highly possible that this girl will give birth to such a warrior who will be a leader of the Arabs?” His son Aasim said: “I don’t have a wife so get me married to her.” From this marriage a daughter was born who in turn became the mother of Umar bin Abdul Aziz (rahimahullah), the great leader of Islam. (Sifatus Safwah vol. 1 pg. 409, Al-Kitaabul Jaami’u li Seerati Umar ibni Abdil Aziz vol. 1 pg. 13) 

Lesson: There is a beautiful saying, that the nurturing of a child begins the day the mother of that child was born. The nurturing of Umar bin Abdul Aziz began the day his mother was born, and her nurturing was carried out in the most pious of ways since her mother was pious from a young age. The piety of the mother shapes the child’s future and helps raise true servants of Allah Ta’ala. Every mother should realise her important role in the upbringing of her children.