The Road to a Happy Marriage (Part1 - Ahaadeeth & Obedience)

Ahaadeeth:

Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The woman who offers her five times salaah, fasts in the month of Ramadaan, protects her honour and obeys her husband, has the choice of entering Jannah from whichever door she wishes to enter from” (Ibnu Hibbaan #4163). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The woman who passes away in such a state that her husband is happy with her will enter Jannah” (Tirmizi #1161). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) also said: “If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone besides Allah Ta’ala, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband. If the husband orders the wife to carry the boulders of one mountain to the next and then to a third, she should do so” (Ibnu Maajah #1852).

2. Never regard your obedience and service to your husband in mundane acts as insignificant. In fulfilling his wishes, you are obeying the command of Allah Ta’ala who has made incumbent upon you total obedience to your husband (in permissible matters). Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said to a woman: “Your husband is either your Jannah or your Jahannum” (Muwatta Imaam Muhammamad #951).

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Oreo Cake

Ingredients:

½ pound butter

1 ½ cup castor sugar

4 eggs 

1 box oreo (original)

3 cups flour

1 ¾ cup milk

4 tsp baking powder

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Sweet Poison

A pearl is hidden in an oyster deep down in the ocean- a priceless treasure! So too a women with all her beauty is to remain in the protection of her home. It offers her safety and security away from the evils and fitan of the world. Women are ornaments of concealment. The knowledge of Deen enhances her beauty and modesty since Islam gives her a pedestal no other religion gives to women. She is the queen of her home. She serves her husband and children for the pleasure of Allah Ta'ala  and makes her home a garden of paradise for them.

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Poem:Trust in Allah Ta'ala

Sometimes I try to move, a mountain or a tree

Only to realise, the weakness within me

Allah wants us only, to plant little seeds

It will later germinate, into gigantic deeds

Do what you supposed to, and do it to your best

You will see how Allah, will surely do the rest

Place your trust in Him, He’ll be there for you

to care 4 your needs, & then support you through

Husband Not Happy with Cooking

Correspondence of Hazrat Moulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahimahullah) 

Letter:

Asalaam Mu Alaikum Maulana

I am married for several years. Shukr alhamdullilah I love my husband and he loves me and we have a good relationship. However, we have a problem commonly found in other marriages which has become serious: my husband is not happy with my cooking. I try very hard to make the kind of food he likes by looking for new recipes, asking my mother-in-law etc but he is always unhappy. When he doesn't like it, he gets very upset and angry and sometimes he has come close to giving me one 'talaaq' - astagfirrullah. I don't know what to do, as I love him and try so hard but he is rarely happy. He is a very fussy man and has high expectations which I can't seem to meet, no matter how hard I have tried. When I got married I didn't know how to cook, so I tried very quickly to learn, am learning everyday, but I am still unable to please him. Please can you give me some guidance and make dua for my marriage and for myself.

JazakAllah

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