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No Work & Still Tired

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Thursday, 12 July 2012 08:04

We all constantly complain that there is no time and we are sick and tired. Where have we gone wrong? Many women have servants all around them. Some women even have a separate servant to take care of the home - from dressing beds to cutting up her meat and vegetables, while another servant is employed to take care of the kids - from feeding them, changing diapers, giving them night baths, and tucking them into their beds! What then does Madam do? Well she is very busy shouting at the servants and instructing them. She is always displeased and complaining about the work they do. Often madam forgets that the servants working for her also have feelings of their own. We need to address our servants in a manner that we would like to be addressed. The irony of it all is, after having all our work done by others we still complain that we are tired and feeling weak! 

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No Sugar,No Sweetness

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Wednesday, 11 July 2012 17:57

Each woman imagines different things to be a source of joy and happiness in her life. Having more wealth or better health, having an ideal husband or good looking children, having one’s own home and a smarter car, having model looks or a perfect goal weight, visiting places and shopping . . . the list of never ending imaginations may go on and on. The irony of it all is that even after having all of the above, one is still unhappy. The reason for this can be understood by a simple example. Imagine having a cup of tea with no sugar in it. One may continue stirring the tea but one will not get any sweetness out of it since there is no sugar in the tea. In the same way one may continue passing through the pleasures of this world, but we will not get any happiness out of it, since happiness is not in the material things of this world. Happiness is sealed in the beautiful Deen of our loving Allah Ta’ala.

   

Husband in contact with other women

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Wednesday, 04 July 2012 14:56

Question:

Assalaamu-alaikum. 

Please advise me. I am married to a learned person for many years. I was totally on the wrong path when I met him but Alhumdullillah he showed me the way. I stopped communicating with all my male friends and family. I'm making my salaah, fast in ramadaan sit in taleem everyday. We have 5 kids together however he is at all times on his phone with women. He hides his phone from me and it’s always on silent if he is at home. Every night he is out with his friends, so I assume. I can't handle it anymore please do advise me on what to do. 

Jazakallah Khairan

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Rules of a Muslim Home (#3) - Speaking in a Soft Tone

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Monday, 09 July 2012 11:17

The Quraan Majeed declares that Allah Ta’ala has made the home of a believer a place of peace and tranquillity (Surah Nahl, v80). Thus we understand that among the etiquettes of a Muslim home is that members of the household refrain from doing anything that destroys the peace and tranquillity. This includes thoughtless and loud disturbing speech. 

It is mentioned in a Hadith that “A Muslim is he who other Muslims are safe from the harms of his tongue and his hands.” (Saheeh Bukhari #9) 

People living in the same house are more than neighbours and more than just friends. Therefore, it is imperative that they should not hurt one another in any way. Among the most annoying and hurtful behaviour is making noise at home or raising one’s voice so loudly that it distresses others. 

A woman, especially, should be extra careful when speaking. Speaking in a loud tone shows a lack of self-respect and modesty in women. If due to some necessity she has to raise her voice, and there is a fear of strange men listening to it, then she should be careful not to talk in a seductive tone. Rather her speech should be short but not sweet.

Allah Ta’ala has mentioned in the Quraan Majeed addressing the pure wives of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam):

“Do not be soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire” (Ahzaab, v32)

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Spinach pies

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Saturday, 07 July 2012 15:13

Ingredients:

1 onion - sauté in butter

500g cubed chicken fillet

1 tsp salt

½ tsp lemon pepper

1 tsp garlic 

Ground green chillies (to taste) 

Crushed jeero

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