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Dealing with Difficult Toddlers

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 19 January 2021 15:41

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I need some advice regarding bringing up my child.

Alhamdulillah I have two masha-Allah children. The problem I have is that my son (two years three months old) is an extremely active child. He is also what you can call a ‘naughty toddler’. There are times when I sit and cry, wondering “When will this child become easier to handle?”

Whatever I do for him is always done with a struggle. On a daily basis, doing normal, routine things is extremely difficult. He doesn’t like changing his nappy, he doesn’t like going into the bath, and he doesn’t like eating a lot of things. When I say it’s a struggle, I mean he hits me, kicks me, screams and cries, throws himself onto the ground, etc.

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How Should a Woman Keep Contact with a Shaikh?

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 01 December 2020 15:15

Condition:

You mentioned that a person cannot reform himself without a spiritual guide, and that the nafs cannot be overpowered until one is not under the supervision of a shaikh. What is the ruling for a woman, because it is not possible for her to remain in the company of a pious person or a shaikh?

Answer:

The shaikh is also a non-mahram for a woman. A woman is not required to remain in the company of a shaikh.

Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) observed purdah with the Sahaabiyyaat (radhiyallahu ‘anhunna). It is only a fake shaikh and person with worldly motives who will keep women in his company.

Women may listen – from behind a curtain – to the talks of a shaikh who follows the sunnah and the sharee‘ah. They may read his books and listen to his cassettes (recordings). They may correspond with the shaikh for the purpose of reformation, provided their letters are signed by a mahram. In this way, a woman can become the beloved of Allah Ta‘ala.

(Solutions to Spiritual Maladies for the Lovers of Allah Ta‘ala, pg. 484)

 

Enmity for his In-Laws

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Last Updated on Monday, 16 November 2020 15:56

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I write this with a very heavy heart. My sister is married to a man who is a practicing Muslim and a pious person, who is very close to ‘Ulama.

He is sometimes the best husband in the world to her, but then he “goes off”, and it happens all the time. She has lost her self-confidence and health due to the constant tension.

He doesn’t like the fact that he has in-laws and takes advantage because he knows my father will not tell him anything. Because of his unfriendly behaviour towards my family, no one likes him, yet he speaks nicely to his friends and own family.

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Specifying Ownership

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Last Updated on Monday, 26 October 2020 15:26

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I am newly-married and we have received certain items as gifts. Is it okay to say that these items belong to both of us or is that ambiguous?

In the case of one spouse passing away, would these belong to the spouse that is living or will they need to be distributed to the heirs of the other spouse?

Does one have to be specific as to who the fridge, washing machine, appliances, cutlery, dishes, lounge suite, mattress, linen, etc. belong to?

If yes, what is the advisable way in which it should be done?

Jazakallah

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Backbiting

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 20 October 2020 13:54

Condition:

Hazrat, as far as backbiting is concerned, all thanks are due to Allah Ta‘ala that I am able to abstain to a great extent. It is the grace of Allah Ta‘ala that if backbiting occurs in any gathering, He gives me the courage to get up and leave. However, there are certain issues which I do not understand. One is that even when I am getting up to leave the gathering, some of the backbiting falls into my ears (hence am I sinful for hearing it or not?).

Answer:

Get up immediately and leave from there. You will not be taken to task for unintentionally hearing the backbiting. However, if you stop for even a single moment to hear what is being said, it will be a sin and you must atone for it.

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