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Etiquettes of the Host

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Last Updated on Thursday, 12 October 2017 15:21

1. When the guest arrives (and will be staying over), show him the toilet. In doing so, it will be easy for the guest to relieve himself if there is a need, without him needing to search for the host and enquire regarding the toilet.

2. If the guest arrives and is hungry, serve him whatever food is available or can be prepared quickly. Do not make the guest wait in hunger so that a lavish meal can be prepared.

3. The host should not force the guest to eat. This may harm the health and the well-being of the guest.

4. Do not stare at the guest while he is eating, or take note of and remark on the amount of food that he is eating. This will embarrass the guest and cause him to feel uncomfortable.

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Masturbation Addiction

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 19 September 2017 15:22

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I am addicted to masturbation from a very young age, but I only learned that it’s prohibited in Islam and is a major sin two years ago! I have been trying so hard to stop but I can’t. I need proper guidance and advice on how I should leave it. Also, when I stop the urge, which is now limited to every weekend, I feel so depressed that I become rebellious and irritated with people around me.

I haven’t spoken about this to anyone yet. Please help me. I’m dying in this pit alone!

Jazakallah khair 

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Etiquettes of the Guest

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 12 September 2017 16:16

1. If the guest will not be partaking of meals, he should inform the host in advance. If he does not do this, the host will prepare meals and thereafter be disappointed when the guest does not eat. Obviously, this causes great inconvenience to the host.

2. If the guest is going anywhere, he should first inform the host.

3. The guest should not accept an invitation for any meal without first asking the permission of the host.

4. The guest should not interfere in the household affairs and matters of the host.

5. If the guest needs to make a request for anything, he should do so with respect and humility. He should never be demanding and rude.

6. If the guest has any special dietary requirements (e.g. he is on a strict diet and cannot eat certain foods) then he should inform the host in advance so that the preparations can be made accordingly. He should not wait for the meal to be served and thereafter inform the host of his diet.

7. The guest should not place a request before the host that will put the host through difficulty. Hence, the guest should be considerate and thoughtful before making any request.

8. The guest should not take uninvited people with him to the home of the host.

9. If several varieties of food or dishes are served then the guest should partake of a little from each dish.

   

What if He Takes a Second Wife?

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Last Updated on Sunday, 27 August 2017 08:53

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I’m in need of advice please. 

I’m married for several years alhamdulillah. We have had our ups and downs and there was cheating from his side. With the mercy of Allah Ta‘ala, we have got through for few years now and all is going well alhamdulillah.

My problem is that I constantly feel that my husband is going to take a second wife and it really saddens me. I think about it probably ten to twenty times a day. He never said or did anything to cause me to think that he will do this, but it’s still there in my mind.

Please advise and help me to get these thoughts out of my head. 

Jazakallah, may Allah Ta‘ala reward you abundantly. 

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Listening to Music

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 09 August 2017 15:32

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have the bad habit of listening to music. Please advise me as to how I can stop and give up this bad habit

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

1. Listening to music is completely impermissible. You should therefore sit daily and ponder over the punishments that will be given to those listening to music. Imagine that it is the Day of Qiyaamah and there is a line of people who are being called forward, one at a time, and they are all being severely punished. Picture the excruciating pain that the person is going through, the screeching and the screaming that you can hear and the very frightful punishment that is being meted out to the person. You can now see the line moving on and your turn is coming up. Feel the pain, fear and the difficulty of that moment. Make sincere taubah and istighfaar, and be grateful that Allah Ta‘ala gave you a chance that you still have life. Make a firm resolution that you will not go back to this again. Do this muraaqabah (meditation) at least three times a day for the next two weeks. Thereafter continue with it at least once a day.

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