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Etiquettes of the Guest

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 12 September 2017 16:16

1. If the guest will not be partaking of meals, he should inform the host in advance. If he does not do this, the host will prepare meals and thereafter be disappointed when the guest does not eat. Obviously, this causes great inconvenience to the host.

2. If the guest is going anywhere, he should first inform the host.

3. The guest should not accept an invitation for any meal without first asking the permission of the host.

4. The guest should not interfere in the household affairs and matters of the host.

5. If the guest needs to make a request for anything, he should do so with respect and humility. He should never be demanding and rude.

6. If the guest has any special dietary requirements (e.g. he is on a strict diet and cannot eat certain foods) then he should inform the host in advance so that the preparations can be made accordingly. He should not wait for the meal to be served and thereafter inform the host of his diet.

7. The guest should not place a request before the host that will put the host through difficulty. Hence, the guest should be considerate and thoughtful before making any request.

8. The guest should not take uninvited people with him to the home of the host.

9. If several varieties of food or dishes are served then the guest should partake of a little from each dish.

   

What if He Takes a Second Wife?

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Last Updated on Sunday, 27 August 2017 08:53

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I’m in need of advice please. 

I’m married for several years alhamdulillah. We have had our ups and downs and there was cheating from his side. With the mercy of Allah Ta‘ala, we have got through for few years now and all is going well alhamdulillah.

My problem is that I constantly feel that my husband is going to take a second wife and it really saddens me. I think about it probably ten to twenty times a day. He never said or did anything to cause me to think that he will do this, but it’s still there in my mind.

Please advise and help me to get these thoughts out of my head. 

Jazakallah, may Allah Ta‘ala reward you abundantly. 

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A Modest Muslimah Inspires to Islam

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Last Updated on Thursday, 17 August 2017 15:50

The following is the first hand account of a female American doctor who accepted Islam due to a young Muslimah’s piety:

I am a gynaecologist and have been working in a hospital in America for the past eight years. Last year, a young, Muslim, Arab girl arrived in the hospital in the throes of labour. The labour pain was naturally severe and excruciating, yet I did not witness even a single tear fall from the eyes of this young girl.

Nevertheless, my shift was nearing its end, and so I informed the young girl that I would be going home and that another doctor (who was a male) would be arriving shortly to deliver her child. Whereas this young girl had not shed a single tear or emitted a single moan or complaint until now, on hearing that I was leaving, she suddenly began to cry and moan earnestly while insisting, “No! No! Not a man!”

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Listening to Music

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 09 August 2017 15:32

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have the bad habit of listening to music. Please advise me as to how I can stop and give up this bad habit

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

1. Listening to music is completely impermissible. You should therefore sit daily and ponder over the punishments that will be given to those listening to music. Imagine that it is the Day of Qiyaamah and there is a line of people who are being called forward, one at a time, and they are all being severely punished. Picture the excruciating pain that the person is going through, the screeching and the screaming that you can hear and the very frightful punishment that is being meted out to the person. You can now see the line moving on and your turn is coming up. Feel the pain, fear and the difficulty of that moment. Make sincere taubah and istighfaar, and be grateful that Allah Ta‘ala gave you a chance that you still have life. Make a firm resolution that you will not go back to this again. Do this muraaqabah (meditation) at least three times a day for the next two weeks. Thereafter continue with it at least once a day.

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Envy and Ingratitude

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 01 August 2017 15:51

Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)

Condition:

I have a very bad habit of envy. When I see any girl enjoying a bounty from Allah Ta‘ala, I become envious and constantly think to myself, “She is so fortunate that Allah Ta‘ala gave her so much.” I then have thoughts of ungratefulness.

Answer:

Envy in matters of Deen is permissible, such as when a person thinks, “I should also acquire that Deeni bounty.” However, you should never be ungrateful, as ingratitude is a serious sin. Think of all the bounties of Allah Ta‘ala that you enjoy, and make du‘aa for more progress by saying, “O Allah! I express complete gratitude for every bounty which You bestowed me with, and I ask You for more bounties in Deen.” (Solutions to Spiritual Maladies for the Lovers of Allah Ta‘ala, pg. 351)

   

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