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Last Updated on Sunday, 01 July 2012 09:04

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Asalaam alaikum

I've been married for three years. My problem is not that big but still I need help. When my husband and I got married we were living in a certain area. The same month he got another job in another area where my parents stay and close to his village where his mother stays. Due to some conditions of my work I couldn’t transfer so I stopped working so I could stay with my husband.Now here's my problem. Ever since my husband and I got married he has never helped my family financially. I couldn’t find work for a whole year and I gave my parents nothing. I remember that time my father had no money to pay my brothers examination fees and I had to borrow from him. A year later Alihamdulilah I managed to get a job. My husband said I must be buying groceries and relish while he pays rent, electricity, water bills and other essentials. I felt it was fair. The problem is after buying these things I remain with little money I cant even buy myself that Abaya I like let alone talk of helping my parents. My parents live in a rented house and takes care of his late sisters children. He has never come to our house to ask for anything but I know that he's suffering at times. My mother in-law on the other hand pays us a visit almost each and every month end and my husband gives her money on every occasion. My mother in-law grows food and my husband helps with labour and even fertilizer. My parents rely on food which they buy. I don’t ask my husband to give my parents money but at least relieve me of some of my responsibilities so I can help my parents.Now things seem to be worse since he bought a car on loan which they deduct almost half of his salary every month he's doing his masters degree and has to pay fees from his salary.I have to do more than my responsibilities. My husband has two brothers who help in assisting the mother but I am the only one who is educated enough in my family and has a job. I have held my patience long enough and am being tempted. Few months ago for the first time in my marriage I lied to my husband about the price of something I bought so I could use the other money to buy shoes for my younger cousin. This is making me feel bad that sometimes I feel like telling him.He also tells me to contribute money for fuel so he can drop me and pick me from work since my office is very far away from where we stay.

Please please help.

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What to do in Pregnancy?

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Last Updated on Sunday, 01 July 2012 09:05

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Respected Ulama, trough the grace of Allah all mighty, my wife has found out that she is pregnant. We are most grateful to Allah, and at the same time we do not want to displease Allah by doing things the wrong way. My question firstly is: Is there any law about a time period were one should not tell others about the pregnancy? Secondly if you can please give some targheeb on what sunnah practices should be carried out during the pregnancy and at the time of birth and the first few weeks? May Allah reward you plenty fold and make your task an easy one.

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Monthly Allowance

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Last Updated on Sunday, 01 July 2012 09:05

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Asalaamu Alaykum. I am married for 5 years, for the first three years, I would receive an allowance from my husband. Now for almost two years, he doesn't give me a cent, and always complains that he has many debts to pay. I feel that the debts are his own doing and that I am being cheated off my allowance so that he can pay his debts. It gets so bad sometimes that if I need a little money, I have to borrow from the neighbour as he sternly refuses to give me money for myself. With regards to groceries, he buys the necessary items. But I'm talking about money for my personal use. Is it right for him to do this?

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Q: What if a woman starts bleeding before experiencing fifteen days of purity?

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 June 2012 07:33

A: If a woman, after completing her cycle begins to bleed again within 15 days, it will not be considered the start of a new cycle. This blood will be regarded as istihaadhah (dysfunctional uterine bleeding). (The laws of istihaadhah will be discussed later.)

   

Q: Is there any maximum duration for tuhr between two cycles?

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Last Updated on Friday, 08 June 2012 07:33

A: There is no maximum duration for purity. Hence, a woman will remain pure as long as she does not bleed, even if it extends to several months or years.

   

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