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Salaam – Rulings and Etiquettes

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 02 November 2016 10:21

The following are some important rulings and etiquettes pertaining to salaam:

1. It is waajib (obligatory) to reply to the salaam which is written in a letter, email, text message, etc. The reply may be given verbally or in writing.

2. A person who is involved in a conversation or is engaged in some work should not be greeted.

3. It is makrooh to make salaam to a person who is engaged in a deeni activity e.g. reciting the Quraan Majeed, making zikr or du‘aa.

4. It is makrooh to make salaam to a person who is engaged in a natural activity e.g. eating.

5. If one agrees to convey salaams to a certain person, it will be necessary to fulfill the responsibility and convey the greeting. Hence, if one is asked to convey salaams but does not wish that the responsibility become necessary, he should merely say, “I will try” or “insha-Allah”.

6. When writing the salaam, one should refrain from using abbreviations such as ‘slmz’. Rather, the salaam should be written out in full. 

   

Sleepovers

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 01 November 2016 16:20

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I would like to know what Islam says with regards to sleepovers of young children (boys and girls) with their grandparents and aunts and uncles. Is it encouraged? I have reservations as I have had situations in my family with regards to respect of young girls.

Kindly advise as I am constantly faced with this situation with my kids.

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Boy Hanging Around with Us

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 18 October 2016 15:29

Question:

Assalaamu alaikum

I attended the Uswatul Muslimah marriage course and had a question.

Dating was discussed as well as zina, but these topics are very broad. I’m attending full time studies at… There is a Muslim boy at campus who hangs out with my friends and sits with us at specific lectures. He occasionally makes small talk about work and campus. 

In the course, it was said that Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) had advised that zina should be avoided at all costs. I just wanted some clarification I guess. It feels silly talking about this but I love Allah, and I rather feel silly if it means I ensure I don't disappoint him. Any advice will be helpful.

Jazakallah for taking the time to read this.

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Speaking to Non-Mahrams

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 11 October 2016 09:58

Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)

Condition:

I made efforts to abstain from casting evil glances and backbiting. I was able to save myself at times while I was deluded by the nafs and Shaitaan at other times. The thought comes constantly into my mind that I ought to give up these sins. The sin of casting evil glances is committed because we all live together and non-mahrams come constantly before us. When it is necessary for me to speak to a non-mahram, I try to lower my gaze but it automatically looks up. No thoughts come to my heart and I am not spoken to when I lower my gaze. I am making every possible effort. Kindly show me a way of lowering my gaze even when I am speaking to others.

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Husband is Watching Porn

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 28 September 2016 15:45

Question:

Assalaamu alaikum

My husband views porn material and even forwards it to others. I’m not allowed to see his phone. It wasn’t a problem before, because I used to help him with his work.

I have no reason to believe that he is cheating on me, but I am disappointed and disgusted that he can share such vile material with others.

I know if I confront him, he will be angry at me. How do I deal with this? 

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