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Envy and Ingratitude

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 01 August 2017 15:51

Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)

Condition:

I have a very bad habit of envy. When I see any girl enjoying a bounty from Allah Ta‘ala, I become envious and constantly think to myself, “She is so fortunate that Allah Ta‘ala gave her so much.” I then have thoughts of ungratefulness.

Answer:

Envy in matters of Deen is permissible, such as when a person thinks, “I should also acquire that Deeni bounty.” However, you should never be ungrateful, as ingratitude is a serious sin. Think of all the bounties of Allah Ta‘ala that you enjoy, and make du‘aa for more progress by saying, “O Allah! I express complete gratitude for every bounty which You bestowed me with, and I ask You for more bounties in Deen.” (Solutions to Spiritual Maladies for the Lovers of Allah Ta‘ala, pg. 351)

   

Etiquettes of Meeting a Person

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 25 July 2017 15:36

1. When meeting a person, do so smilingly and pleasantly.

2. When meeting a person for the first time, introduce yourself by stating your name, the place in which you live and the purpose for your visit/meeting.

3. Do not meet a person at a time that will inconvenience him due to him being involved in some work, resting, etc.

4. Do not prolong the duration of the visit and inconvenience the person. Often, women visit other women at their homes and stay so long that the woman’s work is affected e.g. she is unable to cook and complete the other chores of the home. This naturally causes her difficulty and inconvenience.

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Children’s Salaah

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Last Updated on Saturday, 15 July 2017 14:59

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

How can I make my children perform their salaah five times a day? They are all baaligh and used to perform their salaah, but now they don’t perform their salaah anymore. I am very worried and need help.  

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Removing Jealousy and Inculcating Humility

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Last Updated on Thursday, 11 May 2017 16:00

Correspondence of Hazrat Moulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahimahullah)

Letter: 

Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Respected Moulana

Please advise me as to what is the best method of removing malice and jealousy from my heart, and how do I create humility within myself?

Jazakallah

Was-Salaam

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Etiquettes when being Addressed

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Last Updated on Thursday, 27 April 2017 14:11

1. When somebody speaks to you, listen attentively. Showing indifference will hurt the speaker’s feelings. Similarly, do not wake up and leave while you are being spoken to (unless the conversation involves haraam e.g. backbiting, etc.).

2. If you do not understand what has been said, seek clarification. Do not pretend to understand, and do not use your own opinion to try and interpret or understand the statement.

3. If you are requested to do something, respond clearly by either accepting or rejecting. Do not give an ambiguous answer or remain silent, thus giving the person the impression that you intend to fulfill the request whereas you do not intend to fulfill it. Also, if you accept, then inform the person as soon as the request is fulfilled.

4. When listening to a lecture or attending a ta’leem, focus on what is being said. Do not engage in conversation with another person, fidget with one’s clothing, fingers, etc., or use one’s phone.

5. If you are asked to identify yourself (e.g. over the phone or when knocking on someone’s door) then do not answer by saying, “It’s me”. Instead, introduce yourself completely by stating your full name.

   

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