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Lying Child

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Last Updated on Monday, 03 April 2017 15:34

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

My son, who is almost three years old, has started telling imaginary tales. He also speaks untruths e.g. when asked if he has packed his toys, he replies yes, whereas he hasn't done so. How should such incidents be dealt with now so that he does not grow up with the habit of telling lies? 

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

The following are a few steps that you should take in order to try and assist your son to cease telling lies:

1. Repeatedly drum the lesson, in an endearing way, that Allah Ta‘ala does not like those who tell lies.

2. Explain the hadeeth that when a person lies, a smell emanates from his mouth which the angels can perceive. They (the angels of mercy) then flee up to one mile’s distance. How terrible is this!

3. If he is found to be lying, deprive him of some privilege for that day.

4. If he has spoken the truth, acknowledge it and reward him – even if it be some words of praise or a hug.

May Allah Ta’ala make him an honest and truthful servant of His. 

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Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama

   

Rights of the Daughter-in-Law

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Last Updated on Friday, 24 February 2017 21:08

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I require some advice regarding the rights of daughter-in-laws. My mother-in-law swore at me and said that I was never a daughter-in-law to her so she doesn’t care and doesn’t want anything to do with me. My father-in-law even called me shouting and screaming and telling me that my mother-in-law won’t ask for maaf and I must lower myself. He then cut the call. 

After this I am completely heartbroken as well as disheartened towards them. I do not want to go to their home or see them anymore. Please advise the best and correct way to handle this situation. It is very difficult to suppress my feelings, because every time I see them I will remember how disrespectful and demeaning they are to the daughter-in-law of the house. Is this fair to me as a daughter-in-law and what are my rights? 

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Realizing One’s Priorities

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 14 February 2017 16:28

Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)

Condition:

Due to teaching in a madrasah, I am busy from 7:30 a.m. until 11:00 a.m. I then have to offer my salaah, prepare food, attend to my domestic chores and see to the children. In the afternoon, I am responsible for supervising certain students from 4:00 p.m. until 6:00 p.m. Because I am the only one at home, I am responsible for the evening chores. I then need to study at night.

On account of my madrasah engagements, I have no time or very little time for my personal ‘ibaadah. At times, I am able to remain punctual in fulfilling an ‘ibaadah for some time, and it then becomes difficult to complete it because of teaching, domestic chores and seeing to the children. In fact, the administrative engagements and seeing to the education and training of the students in the madrasah are even causing shortcomings in fulfilling my husband’s rights.

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Musaafahah – Rulings and Etiquettes

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Last Updated on Thursday, 02 February 2017 16:42

1. Musaafahah refers to clasping the hands.

2. It is sunnah to make musaafahah after making salaam. Hence, one should not merely make musaafahah without making salaam.

3. Musaafahah should be made with two hands.

4. Musaafahah should be made on arrival and on departure.

5. Musaafahah should not be accompanied by any other unfounded practice e.g. kissing cheeks, twisting thumbs, etc.

6. If a person is carrying something, suffice on making salaam and do not inconvenience the person by trying to make musaafahah with him.

7. Similarly, if a person is busy or is rushing, do not inconvenience him by making musaafahah with him.

8. A woman should not greet or make musaafahah with men who are not her mahram.

   

Suicidal Friend

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 31 January 2017 15:52

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

Unfortunately I have a friend that wants to commit suicide. How can I help her?

Jazakallaahu Khairan 

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