Serving One’s Husband

Correspondence of Hazrat Moulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahimahullah)

Letter: 

As Salaamu ‘alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatuh

Respected Maulana,

Where does it say in Islam that a woman has to serve her husband? Why did the Sahaabiyyaat serve their husbands, if it is not in Islam? Why did Hazrat Fatima (radhiyallahu ‘anha) do housework if it is not in Islam? Why should we serve our husbands? Why?

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Son on Drugs

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I would like your advice.

I have a 33 year old son that’s on drugs. He has been in a few rehabs but just don’t want to come right. He refuses to move out of the house and when we put him out a few times then he comes after a week or 2 and says that his finished with drugs. He is alright for a while then he starts again.

We really don’t know what to do anymore.

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Wicked Sister in Law

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum 

I request advice regarding the relationship with my sister in law. 

My sister in law doesn’t speak to me or sms me. She doesn't keep in contact with me at all, until it suits her. I want to have a relationship with her like a sister, but she doesn't bother with me at all. After speaking to her several times and begging her to please keep in contact with me so that we can have a good relationship she said straight, if she wants to she will. 

My in laws support her too and feel she is not wrong in any way. All I’m asking is to be taken part of the family like a sister and to also be in contact with me like how she is with everyone else. She has time for boyfriends, cousins, friends, and whenever it comes to me, she says, “I’m busy.” Also I was sick and she didn't even call or sms to find out about my health yet when she hurt herself, I put my broken heart aside and messaged her. It breaks my heart. 

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Forced to Go to University

Question: 

Assalamu ‘alaikum.

I made lots of du‘aa so that I do not go to the mixed university in my country. My mum insists that I should go. And today, I have already completed one semester there though I hated that place! I feel suffocated there. But my parents want me to go there.

My question is: Although I made du‘aa, I’m still going there? Did Allah choose/want me to go there? And why would He want me to go to such a place? Is He angry with me?

I have always wanted to become an aalimah. Please enlighten me. I’m feeling so lost.

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Troubled by Thoughts

Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)

Condition:

I constantly feel my heart to be a target for sins. I am unable to protect my heart. Thoughts about others apart from Allah Ta‘ala are coming profusely to me. I feel as though my heart is very impure.

Answer:

Thousands of thoughts of sinning can come to a person but this is not a sin. In other words, it is not a sin for such thoughts to come, but a sin to bring such thoughts. When such thoughts come to you, occupy yourself in some lawful activity, lawful conversation, or study a book. Neither occupy yourself in these thoughts nor try to chase them away.

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