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Children’s Behaviour


Last Updated on Monday, 13 October 2014 15:19

Correspondence of Hazrat Moulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahimahullah)


As Salaamu ‘alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatuh

Respected Maulana,

Can you please give me a wazeefah for my children? My daughter is five years old and my son is two years old. I am worried about their behaviour, especially my daughter, who has become rebellious and a bit hyper and is not doing well at school and madrasah so far.

Please give me a wazeefah that I can read on a daily basis so she becomes well-mannered and improves in her madrasah and school.

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Hanafi or Muslim?


Last Updated on Wednesday, 01 October 2014 16:29


A friend at campus often asks fellow students: “Are you a Muslim or a Hanafi/Shaafi‘ee?” How does one respond to such a question? Please advise.


The word “or” (in the context of the question) is used between two words of the same species. It is correct to ask someone whether he will eat “rice or bread” since both are food items, but you cannot enquire whether he will eat “bread or paper”. Likewise, if your friend asks someone whether he lives in Durban or South Africa, the question will be absurd. Only one who is ignorant of the fact that Durban is not a country, but a city in South Africa, can ask such a question.

Your friend’s question implies that one can either be a Muslim or a Hanafi. Thus if someone says he is a Hanafi then, Allah forbid, he is not a Muslim!! It is the same as asking whether you live in Durban or South Africa, and that if you live in Durban, then you are not a South African???

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I Can’t get Over Him


Last Updated on Monday, 29 September 2014 15:04

Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)


I have a very great illness over which I am disturbed and which I would like to put to an end. I had seen a boy about three to four years ago. I never spoke to him nor met him. I did not see him again ever since that day. But I constantly think about him. On account of this, there is no concentration in my studies, salaah, zikr, etc. I do not want to keep anyone apart from Allah Ta‘ala in my heart. I am also greatly disturbed by fantasies and whisperings.


Do not deliberately think of him whether in privacy or in public. Think to yourself: Who bestowed him with this beauty and handsomeness? If this heart is affected by this fleeting beauty and false love, then what can be said of Allah Ta‘ala, the source of all beauty, Who gave this (person) an iota of beauty? The beauty of this person is fleeting, while the beauty of the Creator of beauty is eternal. Therefore, your heart ought to be attached to that eternal Being. This body that is going to die and decompose is not worthy of attachment. The appearance of this body will get worse with the passage of time (as the person gets older) and then you will not even want to look at him. On the other hand, Allah Ta‘ala has a different status at every time, and His beauty is eternal. It is for this reason that when the people will see Allah Ta‘ala in Paradise, they will forget about all the damsels of Paradise and all its other bounties. Read my article on false love one time daily. (Solutions to Spiritual Maladies for the Lovers of Allah Ta‘ala, pg. 92)


In Laws not on Deen


Last Updated on Monday, 15 September 2014 14:44


I have been brought up in a family where we do not celebrate birthdays nor do we have mixed gatherings and shake hands with any ghair mahrams. 

Unfortunately, in my husband’s family it is completely different. They celebrate birthdays, the gatherings are mixed affairs and the women even hug and even kiss some of their male relatives who are ghair mahrams. I was also once put in a situation where a male came and hugged me against my wishes.

I am recently getting worried that how do we bring our children up according to shariah whilst still respecting the family. This is mainly with regards to the issue of photographs.

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Overweight Husband


Last Updated on Tuesday, 19 August 2014 15:34


A woman’s husband is getting so overweight and she is feeling him unattractive to her. She did speak to him about it but it doesn’t seem like he is worried. What advice can you give her? 


Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Respected Sister

She should try to get some senior family member to speak to him on a general note and advise him from a health point of view.

In any case, while she is making whatever effort possible to make him reduce weight, she must be patient on the issue of him seeming unattractive. She should focus on the positive and keep making shukr, such as that he is not disfigured or deformed; he does not have any terminal illness, etc. Making whole-hearted shukr daily will reduce the negative feeling.

And Allah Ta‘ala knows best

Uswatul Muslimah Panel of Ulama


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