Masturbation Addiction

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I am addicted to masturbation from a very young age, but I only learned that it’s prohibited in Islam and is a major sin two years ago! I have been trying so hard to stop but I can’t. I need proper guidance and advice on how I should leave it. Also, when I stop the urge, which is now limited to every weekend, I feel so depressed that I become rebellious and irritated with people around me.

I haven’t spoken about this to anyone yet. Please help me. I’m dying in this pit alone!

Jazakallah khair 

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What if He Takes a Second Wife?

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I’m in need of advice please. 

I’m married for several years alhamdulillah. We have had our ups and downs and there was cheating from his side. With the mercy of Allah Ta‘ala, we have got through for few years now and all is going well alhamdulillah.

My problem is that I constantly feel that my husband is going to take a second wife and it really saddens me. I think about it probably ten to twenty times a day. He never said or did anything to cause me to think that he will do this, but it’s still there in my mind.

Please advise and help me to get these thoughts out of my head. 

Jazakallah, may Allah Ta‘ala reward you abundantly. 

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Listening to Music

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have the bad habit of listening to music. Please advise me as to how I can stop and give up this bad habit

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

1. Listening to music is completely impermissible. You should therefore sit daily and ponder over the punishments that will be given to those listening to music. Imagine that it is the Day of Qiyaamah and there is a line of people who are being called forward, one at a time, and they are all being severely punished. Picture the excruciating pain that the person is going through, the screeching and the screaming that you can hear and the very frightful punishment that is being meted out to the person. You can now see the line moving on and your turn is coming up. Feel the pain, fear and the difficulty of that moment. Make sincere taubah and istighfaar, and be grateful that Allah Ta‘ala gave you a chance that you still have life. Make a firm resolution that you will not go back to this again. Do this muraaqabah (meditation) at least three times a day for the next two weeks. Thereafter continue with it at least once a day.

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Children’s Salaah

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

How can I make my children perform their salaah five times a day? They are all baaligh and used to perform their salaah, but now they don’t perform their salaah anymore. I am very worried and need help.  

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Internet Abuse

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I was brought up not allowed to use the internet, watch TV, etc. However, I recently started a course which required the use of the internet. I try my best to only use it for the work required, but time and time again, I end up using it for other stuff. Though it’s not always haraam stuff that I use the internet for, it does waste time. Also, lots of times, I get caught up in watching YouTube videos and though I know it’s not right, I just seem unable to stop. No matter how many promises I make not to use it for anything other than course related work, in the end, I still do.

If Moulana could please advise on how to stop this as I am aware it’s wrong and want to stop, but no matter how much I try, I still get caught up in it. 

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