Disciplining Children

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

How do I raise my children correctly and discipline them appropriately? I know that it is not permissible for one to beat his children excessively, but I feel as though there is no other option because of the stubbornness of the children. Is there any other way of disciplining children without disobeying Allah Ta‘ala?

Jazakallah

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Self-Reformation and Acquiring Knowledge

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

Recently, I’ve noticed that there is a lot of Islamic knowledge that I do not know due to leaving madrasah at a very young age. I find that it is much easier for boys to learn about Deen and gain reformation through going out in jamaat or through attaching themselves to a shaikh, etc. However, for girls it is more difficult.

I would just like to enquire as to how girls should reform themselves in this instance, where they find it difficult and embarrassing to go back to madrasah at such an old age, and they find it extremely difficult to find and make friends with people who are good company and will help with one’s reformation.

Jazakallah

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Hayaa in the Home

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I try my best to dress modestly all the time. Even when I’m at home, I try to cover my hair and dress correctly. When at home, my sisters prefer to leave their hair open, wear short clothes and tight pants or dress in jeans and t-shirts, etc. We often argue about this. They say that since they are only wearing it at home, and they cover up with an abaaya when they go out, there is nothing wrong in dressing like this. Please advise if this is fine.

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Children’s Pictures

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Alhamdulillah, Allah Ta‘ala has blessed me abundantly. My mother-in-law is a wonderful woman whom I love and respect as I would my own mother. My problem is that she has pictures of my children on her phone, and despite knowing that taking pictures is haraam, she refuses to delete them saying that only she’s going to see them, no one else.

How do I get her to understand the gravity of this sin? Also, how can I get her to delete the pictures from her phone in a manner that is not hurtful, as I would never hurt someone I love? Do we, as parents, get sin for this? Please advise.

Jazakallah 

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Punctuality on Ma’moolaat

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I am newly married. Alhamdulillah, Allah Ta‘ala has blessed me with a noble husband and sweet in-laws. My life is alhamdulillah pretty blissful. However, my heart is restless because my ma’mulaat (daily practices) are gone crazy ever since I got married. I have not read Tahajjud even once since my nikaah. I struggle to make a khatam of the Quraan Majeed and I don’t have any azkaar in my life. I feel down when I think about how weak my relationship and bond with Allah Ta‘ala has become.

I struggle to be in in the remembrance of Allah Ta‘ala. All my sunan and nawaafil acts are slowly leaving me. I am sad because of this. Please advise me and give me a simple routine to do with punctuality. Make du‘aa for us, and make du‘aa that Allah Ta‘ala bless us with pious offspring. 

Jazaakallah

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