Listening to Music

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have the bad habit of listening to music. Please advise me as to how I can stop and give up this bad habit

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

1. Listening to music is completely impermissible. You should therefore sit daily and ponder over the punishments that will be given to those listening to music. Imagine that it is the Day of Qiyaamah and there is a line of people who are being called forward, one at a time, and they are all being severely punished. Picture the excruciating pain that the person is going through, the screeching and the screaming that you can hear and the very frightful punishment that is being meted out to the person. You can now see the line moving on and your turn is coming up. Feel the pain, fear and the difficulty of that moment. Make sincere taubah and istighfaar, and be grateful that Allah Ta‘ala gave you a chance that you still have life. Make a firm resolution that you will not go back to this again. Do this muraaqabah (meditation) at least three times a day for the next two weeks. Thereafter continue with it at least once a day.

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Children’s Salaah

Question:

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How can I make my children perform their salaah five times a day? They are all baaligh and used to perform their salaah, but now they don’t perform their salaah anymore. I am very worried and need help.  

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Internet Abuse

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I was brought up not allowed to use the internet, watch TV, etc. However, I recently started a course which required the use of the internet. I try my best to only use it for the work required, but time and time again, I end up using it for other stuff. Though it’s not always haraam stuff that I use the internet for, it does waste time. Also, lots of times, I get caught up in watching YouTube videos and though I know it’s not right, I just seem unable to stop. No matter how many promises I make not to use it for anything other than course related work, in the end, I still do.

If Moulana could please advise on how to stop this as I am aware it’s wrong and want to stop, but no matter how much I try, I still get caught up in it. 

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Feeling Lonely

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I am a 24 year old female. Recently, I have decided to try my best in fulfilling the laws of Allah Ta‘ala. However, I find that I am constantly sad whenever I am alone. When I am with company, I forget the sadness. I feel very lonely. I live alone with my parents and most of my family live far from home. I’m not the type who goes out much and barely have friends to speak to. 

I want to get married, however nothing has worked out so far. I do know that everything is in the hands of Allah Ta‘ala and I have accepted this. 

Also, my mother is constantly finding faults with whatever I do and this has been getting to me. I have tried speaking to her about it in a nice way. However, I am told that I am being disrespectful. 

Please advise me with some zikr, etc., or routine I can follow so I do not waste away time over thinking about matters which I have no control over, as well as a du‘aa that I can read for getting married.

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Lying Child

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

My son, who is almost three years old, has started telling imaginary tales. He also speaks untruths e.g. when asked if he has packed his toys, he replies yes, whereas he hasn't done so. How should such incidents be dealt with now so that he does not grow up with the habit of telling lies? 

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

The following are a few steps that you should take in order to try and assist your son to cease telling lies:

1. Repeatedly drum the lesson, in an endearing way, that Allah Ta‘ala does not like those who tell lies.

2. Explain the hadeeth that when a person lies, a smell emanates from his mouth which the angels can perceive. They (the angels of mercy) then flee up to one mile’s distance. How terrible is this!

3. If he is found to be lying, deprive him of some privilege for that day.

4. If he has spoken the truth, acknowledge it and reward him – even if it be some words of praise or a hug.

May Allah Ta’ala make him an honest and truthful servant of His. 

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Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama