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Rights of the Daughter-in-Law

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Last Updated on Friday, 24 February 2017 21:08

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I require some advice regarding the rights of daughter-in-laws. My mother-in-law swore at me and said that I was never a daughter-in-law to her so she doesn’t care and doesn’t want anything to do with me. My father-in-law even called me shouting and screaming and telling me that my mother-in-law won’t ask for maaf and I must lower myself. He then cut the call. 

After this I am completely heartbroken as well as disheartened towards them. I do not want to go to their home or see them anymore. Please advise the best and correct way to handle this situation. It is very difficult to suppress my feelings, because every time I see them I will remember how disrespectful and demeaning they are to the daughter-in-law of the house. Is this fair to me as a daughter-in-law and what are my rights? 

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Suicidal Friend

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 31 January 2017 15:52

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

Unfortunately I have a friend that wants to commit suicide. How can I help her?

Jazakallaahu Khairan 

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Daughters in University

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 11 January 2017 15:50

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have just finished matric. My parents want me to go to university next year. I have many friends and family who are in university so I know of the fitnahs and sins that are part of campus life. I heard just recently of a girl who we all knew to be pious, that she met a Hindu boy on campus and wishes to marry him. I don’t want to put my imaan on the line by going to university and being exposed to these fitnahs.

Please advise me as to how I can explain my concerns to my parents and convince them.

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Son’s Career

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 29 November 2016 14:33

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

My son will be completing his matric this year insha-Allah. He is very deeni inclined, loves the musjid, listens to deeni talks and Quraanic recitation from his phone and shows no inclination towards succeeding in his secular studies.

We come from a modern background. My husband is adamant in him going to university and getting a degree. I am afraid of my son not living to my husband’s expectations because at this stage, when he is so close to the final exams, he is showing no inclination to take his secular studies seriously.

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Sleepovers

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 01 November 2016 16:20

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I would like to know what Islam says with regards to sleepovers of young children (boys and girls) with their grandparents and aunts and uncles. Is it encouraged? I have reservations as I have had situations in my family with regards to respect of young girls.

Kindly advise as I am constantly faced with this situation with my kids.

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