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Husband Hugging Nieces

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Last Updated on Thursday, 07 April 2016 16:16

Question:

Assalaamu alaikum

I have a problem and need some help.

My husband has nieces just about my age and little smaller. He has a habit of hugging them when they meet and this hurts me. 

I have tried to explain my feelings to my husband but he doesn’t seem to give it a thought. To him it’s permitted so there is no problem. It is a weakness on my side. I want to speak and let his nieces know that this hurts me though it’s permitted. It’s a daily struggle when it comes to mind and especially when we come in contact with them.

What to do? 

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Tights under the Abaya

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 15 March 2016 15:23

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I would like to know what is the ruling of wearing tights under the abaya.

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Handling my Parents’ Divorce

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 23 February 2016 16:11

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Right now I am having abit of a hard time. My parents are going through a divorce and I maybe a little impatient.

How can I be a better daughter? 

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister

This is indeed a great challenge. May Allah Ta‘ala make it easy and remove every difficulty with ease.

Depending on how you handle it, a difficult situation can become much worse or despite the challenge, be something you can manage and take in the stride.

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Thee Best Girls Madrasah

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 02 February 2016 15:41

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum,

I’d like to enquire which madrasah would be suggested as thee best to do an ‘Aalimah course. Even if its 7 years. I’ve been researching but would like to ask for an opinion as I’m not familiar with any madrasah.

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Respected Sister

Masha Allah, your thirst for the knowledge of deen is very noble. May Allah Ta‘ala bless you with ilm-e-naafi’ (beneficial knowledge) and ‘amal-e-saaalih (righteous actions). Aameen.

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Moody, Lazy Husband

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Last Updated on Monday, 23 November 2015 05:48

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum 

We’ve been married for 11 years now, but we are always fighting. My husband is a very moody person who talks to me when he feels like. He could go for weeks being angry with me. Most of the time it’s such petty things. When I try speaking to him about it, it gets so heated & blown out of proportion. If he's wrong he will never apologise, instead he turns things around & makes it my fault. 

He’s also not had much luck with work. With me working, we’ve managed to get through this twice before. This is now the third time he’s lost his job and he’s sitting at home, not making much of an effort to find a job. He’s so moody, he doesn’t even speak to me. I feel that he demands too much from me. I am trying to see to the basics at home but I am barely coping. He makes me feel so guilty if I can’t give him money, like for petrol. He picks on my mum all the time and I can’t understand why.

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