Daughters in University

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have just finished matric. My parents want me to go to university next year. I have many friends and family who are in university so I know of the fitnahs and sins that are part of campus life. I heard just recently of a girl who we all knew to be pious, that she met a Hindu boy on campus and wishes to marry him. I don’t want to put my imaan on the line by going to university and being exposed to these fitnahs.

Please advise me as to how I can explain my concerns to my parents and convince them.

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Son’s Career

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

My son will be completing his matric this year insha-Allah. He is very deeni inclined, loves the musjid, listens to deeni talks and Quraanic recitation from his phone and shows no inclination towards succeeding in his secular studies.

We come from a modern background. My husband is adamant in him going to university and getting a degree. I am afraid of my son not living to my husband’s expectations because at this stage, when he is so close to the final exams, he is showing no inclination to take his secular studies seriously.

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Sleepovers

Question:

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I would like to know what Islam says with regards to sleepovers of young children (boys and girls) with their grandparents and aunts and uncles. Is it encouraged? I have reservations as I have had situations in my family with regards to respect of young girls.

Kindly advise as I am constantly faced with this situation with my kids.

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Boy Hanging Around with Us

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I attended the Uswatul Muslimah marriage course and had a question.

Dating was discussed as well as zina, but these topics are very broad. I’m attending full time studies at… There is a Muslim boy at campus who hangs out with my friends and sits with us at specific lectures. He occasionally makes small talk about work and campus. 

In the course, it was said that Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) had advised that zina should be avoided at all costs. I just wanted some clarification I guess. It feels silly talking about this but I love Allah, and I rather feel silly if it means I ensure I don't disappoint him. Any advice will be helpful.

Jazakallah for taking the time to read this.

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Husband is Watching Porn

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

My husband views porn material and even forwards it to others. I’m not allowed to see his phone. It wasn’t a problem before, because I used to help him with his work.

I have no reason to believe that he is cheating on me, but I am disappointed and disgusted that he can share such vile material with others.

I know if I confront him, he will be angry at me. How do I deal with this? 

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