Friend is in Love

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I know of this friend of mines. She is in love with a boy who is 10 years her senior. They are family and both people come from respectable households. The girl hasn’t admitted her love to anyone. She made du‘aa that if this boy is meant for her she should see him in a dream. After a while, she saw him in a dream.

The thing is that if she has to tell her parents, they might get angry at her, because she is still young and is studying. The boy was previously married but she doesn’t care about that. It doesn’t affect her much but she just thought that maybe she should ask about it.

JazaakAllah.

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Son on Drugs

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I would like your advice.

I have a 33 year old son that’s on drugs. He has been in a few rehabs but just don’t want to come right. He refuses to move out of the house and when we put him out a few times then he comes after a week or 2 and says that his finished with drugs. He is alright for a while then he starts again.

We really don’t know what to do anymore.

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Wicked Sister in Law

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum 

I request advice regarding the relationship with my sister in law. 

My sister in law doesn’t speak to me or sms me. She doesn't keep in contact with me at all, until it suits her. I want to have a relationship with her like a sister, but she doesn't bother with me at all. After speaking to her several times and begging her to please keep in contact with me so that we can have a good relationship she said straight, if she wants to she will. 

My in laws support her too and feel she is not wrong in any way. All I’m asking is to be taken part of the family like a sister and to also be in contact with me like how she is with everyone else. She has time for boyfriends, cousins, friends, and whenever it comes to me, she says, “I’m busy.” Also I was sick and she didn't even call or sms to find out about my health yet when she hurt herself, I put my broken heart aside and messaged her. It breaks my heart. 

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Forced to Go to University

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Assalamu ‘alaikum.

I made lots of du‘aa so that I do not go to the mixed university in my country. My mum insists that I should go. And today, I have already completed one semester there though I hated that place! I feel suffocated there. But my parents want me to go there.

My question is: Although I made du‘aa, I’m still going there? Did Allah choose/want me to go there? And why would He want me to go to such a place? Is He angry with me?

I have always wanted to become an aalimah. Please enlighten me. I’m feeling so lost.

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Is He Meant for Me?

Question: 

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I am a divorced girl. After my divorce I met a guy on Facebook. He was going through a separation and I helped him through it. He used to smoke weed and gamble and I told him I can’t marry someone who does such things. We were on and off for 2 years ... but eventually we went our own ways. It’s been 5 years since we’ve been friends ... just friends. 

I realised that I really love him when he moved on but I left it in Allah’s hands and tried to move on. The thing is every time I tried to get married to someone else there’s always an obstacle. Like the one guy that wanted to marry me, he’s family was against it and so we left it. Then one guy I was going to marry and met his parents but that too somehow didn’t work out. And then there was another guy who came and went.

The thing is this guy and his girlfriend broke up and I want to be with him. I sometimes get the feeling that we meant to be but I don’t. I read all my namaaz and it’s not that my faith is weak. I don’t want a relationship ... I want marriage. And I don’t know if this guy and his girlfriend will get back together or not. He gives me mixed signals and I’m very confused. 

Is it possible for me to make istikharah for guidance? I really don’t want to do haraam. I’m just looking to complete half my imaan and do things properly. Like if this guy is not meant for me I don’t want to keep talking to him. I’m in a state right now. Please advise.

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