Post Divorce

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected Mufti Saab

It’s going to be a year since I am divorced now. Yet I find myself constantly living in the past, thinking about my ex, and what we could’ve done. What I would have done differently in our separation period or why did it turn out like this. Why did I get married if this was going to be the outcome? These and many other questions and thoughts constantly play on my mind. I even dream of a world in which we are together. In reality I know that our marriage couldn’t have worked and I tried everything to save our marriage and sought help from senior ‘Ulama.

Now when I think of marriage the only thing I see is the lies, pain, hurt and affairs that come with it. Almost every marriage that I look at, one spouse is either cheating or getting hurt. There’s only a short period of happiness.

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Blackmail

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I was, for a long time, involved in an illicit relationship with a boy. Our relationship eventually reached the point where I trusted him and sent him pictures of myself. Some of the pictures I sent him were quite revealing and explicit. We broke up a few weeks back and now he wants to use the pictures I sent him to blackmail me. Please advise me as to what I can do. I really regret what I did and I know that it was very foolish. 

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Husband Hugging Nieces

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have a problem and need some help.

My husband has nieces just about my age and little smaller. He has a habit of hugging them when they meet and this hurts me. 

I have tried to explain my feelings to my husband but he doesn’t seem to give it a thought. To him it’s permitted so there is no problem. It is a weakness on my side. I want to speak and let his nieces know that this hurts me though it’s permitted. It’s a daily struggle when it comes to mind and especially when we come in contact with them.

What to do? 

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Tights under the Abaya

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I would like to know what is the ruling of wearing tights under the abaya.

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Handling my Parents’ Divorce

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Right now I am having abit of a hard time. My parents are going through a divorce and I maybe a little impatient.

How can I be a better daughter? 

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister

This is indeed a great challenge. May Allah Ta‘ala make it easy and remove every difficulty with ease.

Depending on how you handle it, a difficult situation can become much worse or despite the challenge, be something you can manage and take in the stride.

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