I Don’t Trust him Going to the Gym

Question:

Assalaamu alaikum

Respected Ulama

I am married for 5 months to a boy I’ve known from before. I have very severe trust issues especially when my husband goes to the gym. He has a habit of not lowering his gaze and I get scared that he’ll notice other women. Is it wrong of me to have these thoughts?

I regret knowing the boy from before I got married as I wish it was done the halal way but nevertheless I regret what I’ve done and I try to repent for it.

How do I deal with my trust issues as it is ruining me and making me depressed?

Jazakallah Khair for your time and advice. 

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Why is Hijaab Important?

Question:

Why hijab is so important for a woman?

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister

The importance of hijaab is due to it being the law of Allah Ta‘ala. As the slaves of Allah Ta‘ala, that is all that we need to be concerned about – that what is the law of Allah Ta‘ala. We should then submit to that command without any question and without delving into the wisdom behind that law.

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Friend is in Love

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I know of this friend of mines. She is in love with a boy who is 10 years her senior. They are family and both people come from respectable households. The girl hasn’t admitted her love to anyone. She made du‘aa that if this boy is meant for her she should see him in a dream. After a while, she saw him in a dream.

The thing is that if she has to tell her parents, they might get angry at her, because she is still young and is studying. The boy was previously married but she doesn’t care about that. It doesn’t affect her much but she just thought that maybe she should ask about it.

JazaakAllah.

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Son on Drugs

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I would like your advice.

I have a 33 year old son that’s on drugs. He has been in a few rehabs but just don’t want to come right. He refuses to move out of the house and when we put him out a few times then he comes after a week or 2 and says that his finished with drugs. He is alright for a while then he starts again.

We really don’t know what to do anymore.

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Wicked Sister in Law

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum 

I request advice regarding the relationship with my sister in law. 

My sister in law doesn’t speak to me or sms me. She doesn't keep in contact with me at all, until it suits her. I want to have a relationship with her like a sister, but she doesn't bother with me at all. After speaking to her several times and begging her to please keep in contact with me so that we can have a good relationship she said straight, if she wants to she will. 

My in laws support her too and feel she is not wrong in any way. All I’m asking is to be taken part of the family like a sister and to also be in contact with me like how she is with everyone else. She has time for boyfriends, cousins, friends, and whenever it comes to me, she says, “I’m busy.” Also I was sick and she didn't even call or sms to find out about my health yet when she hurt herself, I put my broken heart aside and messaged her. It breaks my heart. 

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