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In Laws not on Deen

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Last Updated on Monday, 15 September 2014 14:44

Question:

I have been brought up in a family where we do not celebrate birthdays nor do we have mixed gatherings and shake hands with any ghair mahrams. 

Unfortunately, in my husband’s family it is completely different. They celebrate birthdays, the gatherings are mixed affairs and the women even hug and even kiss some of their male relatives who are ghair mahrams. I was also once put in a situation where a male came and hugged me against my wishes.

I am recently getting worried that how do we bring our children up according to shariah whilst still respecting the family. This is mainly with regards to the issue of photographs.

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Overweight Husband

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 19 August 2014 15:34

Question:

A woman’s husband is getting so overweight and she is feeling him unattractive to her. She did speak to him about it but it doesn’t seem like he is worried. What advice can you give her? 

Answer: 

Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Respected Sister

She should try to get some senior family member to speak to him on a general note and advise him from a health point of view.

In any case, while she is making whatever effort possible to make him reduce weight, she must be patient on the issue of him seeming unattractive. She should focus on the positive and keep making shukr, such as that he is not disfigured or deformed; he does not have any terminal illness, etc. Making whole-hearted shukr daily will reduce the negative feeling.

And Allah Ta‘ala knows best

Uswatul Muslimah Panel of Ulama

   

Internal Examination

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Last Updated on Friday, 20 June 2014 07:55

Question:

Asalaamu alaikum 

1. Does a Pap smear and internal break my fast? 

2. Does it break my ghusal and wudhu? 

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Brother in law Lives in our Home

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Last Updated on Monday, 02 June 2014 15:26

Question:

What are the rulings of living with a brother in law? Is this allowed in Islam?

Bearing in mind that there are other, more sensible alternatives available to the brother in law, he has moved in with us instead of staying in his own home with his parents, for no particular reason.

Are there any duties of a husband towards his wife, with reference to the Quraan and hadeeth, in terms of providing her with her privacy and comfort in her home etc?

I struggle with not having any privacy and freedom in my home, along with many other inconveniences that arise with being in such a situation.

Jzk

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Can Women Work?

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Last Updated on Monday, 12 May 2014 15:32

Question:

Are women allowed to work?

Answer: 

Bismihi Ta'ala

Respected Sister

Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa baraakatuhu

Women are allowed to work, provided no laws of sharee‘ah are broken in the process. In particular, the laws of hijaab must not be flouted in any way, such as intermingling with non-mahrams (strange men), etc. 

Having said this, it is necessary to understand that in the light of the sharee‘ah a woman’s work is at home. The Quraan Majeed clearly addresses the women: “Remain firmly within your homes” (s33, v33). Therefore without necessity she should not emerge from her home. 

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