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I Want Children

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 22 April 2014 15:55

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

I married 3 years ago but my husband was living abroad. Now, since the last 4 months we are living together but I cannot conceive. Doctor’s reports are ok.

Please help me I want my own babies.

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Indecent Dressing?

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Last Updated on Thursday, 17 April 2014 15:39

Question:

I often wear jeans and other western attire indoors. If I leave the home, I always don an abaya over my clothes and also wear hijaab. My husband is ok with my dressing but my mother keeps fighting with me that my dressing is indecent. I do not see anything indecent in how I dress, especially since it is only indoors. Please advise. (summarized).

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Oral Sex

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Last Updated on Monday, 10 March 2014 15:19

Question:

My husband insists on having oral sex. He says that he won’t ejaculate and I won’t be swallowing anything napaak (impure). If I refuse to do so, I fear that he will seek pleasure elsewhere or file for divorce. For him, that is the main form of pleasure. I have heard some fatwas that say it is makrooh and others that say it is haraam. What does a female do in the event that her husband insists on it?

Please advise.

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Help me to Stop Chatting with this Guy

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Last Updated on Monday, 17 February 2014 15:27

Question:

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Assalaamualaykum

I am married with children alhamdulillah. A few months into my marriage, because of in-laws interference, my husband started physically abusing me a lot. This would only happen in the room and my in-laws or no-one knew of this. I was scared of telling anyone. This carried on for a few years.

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Why didn’t my Marriage Work?

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Last Updated on Tuesday, 28 January 2014 15:51

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Assalaamualikum

Respected Moulana/ Mufti Saab

I tried to do everything right in my marriage. It was an arranged marriage, we didn’t communicate much before the nikaah, and we had a small wedding. I wanted to be a stay at home wife, to take care of my husband, our home, invite his family for suppers and see to our future children. 

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