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1. Often many people have very similar circumstances. Never speculate about the identity of the person asking.
2. Never look down upon others or regard oneself as better than anyone.
3. Make du’aa for everyone.

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Hanafi or Muslim?


Last Updated on Wednesday, 01 October 2014 16:29


A friend at campus often asks fellow students: “Are you a Muslim or a Hanafi/Shaafi‘ee?” How does one respond to such a question? Please advise.


The word “or” (in the context of the question) is used between two words of the same species. It is correct to ask someone whether he will eat “rice or bread” since both are food items, but you cannot enquire whether he will eat “bread or paper”. Likewise, if your friend asks someone whether he lives in Durban or South Africa, the question will be absurd. Only one who is ignorant of the fact that Durban is not a country, but a city in South Africa, can ask such a question.

Your friend’s question implies that one can either be a Muslim or a Hanafi. Thus if someone says he is a Hanafi then, Allah forbid, he is not a Muslim!! It is the same as asking whether you live in Durban or South Africa, and that if you live in Durban, then you are not a South African???

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In Laws not on Deen


Last Updated on Monday, 15 September 2014 14:44


I have been brought up in a family where we do not celebrate birthdays nor do we have mixed gatherings and shake hands with any ghair mahrams. 

Unfortunately, in my husband’s family it is completely different. They celebrate birthdays, the gatherings are mixed affairs and the women even hug and even kiss some of their male relatives who are ghair mahrams. I was also once put in a situation where a male came and hugged me against my wishes.

I am recently getting worried that how do we bring our children up according to shariah whilst still respecting the family. This is mainly with regards to the issue of photographs.

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Overweight Husband


Last Updated on Tuesday, 19 August 2014 15:34


A woman’s husband is getting so overweight and she is feeling him unattractive to her. She did speak to him about it but it doesn’t seem like he is worried. What advice can you give her? 


Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Respected Sister

She should try to get some senior family member to speak to him on a general note and advise him from a health point of view.

In any case, while she is making whatever effort possible to make him reduce weight, she must be patient on the issue of him seeming unattractive. She should focus on the positive and keep making shukr, such as that he is not disfigured or deformed; he does not have any terminal illness, etc. Making whole-hearted shukr daily will reduce the negative feeling.

And Allah Ta‘ala knows best

Uswatul Muslimah Panel of Ulama


Internal Examination


Last Updated on Friday, 20 June 2014 07:55


Asalaamu alaikum 

1. Does a Pap smear and internal break my fast? 

2. Does it break my ghusal and wudhu? 

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Brother in law Lives in our Home


Last Updated on Monday, 02 June 2014 15:26


What are the rulings of living with a brother in law? Is this allowed in Islam?

Bearing in mind that there are other, more sensible alternatives available to the brother in law, he has moved in with us instead of staying in his own home with his parents, for no particular reason.

Are there any duties of a husband towards his wife, with reference to the Quraan and hadeeth, in terms of providing her with her privacy and comfort in her home etc?

I struggle with not having any privacy and freedom in my home, along with many other inconveniences that arise with being in such a situation.


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