Feeling Lonely

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I am a 24 year old female. Recently, I have decided to try my best in fulfilling the laws of Allah Ta‘ala. However, I find that I am constantly sad whenever I am alone. When I am with company, I forget the sadness. I feel very lonely. I live alone with my parents and most of my family live far from home. I’m not the type who goes out much and barely have friends to speak to. 

I want to get married, however nothing has worked out so far. I do know that everything is in the hands of Allah Ta‘ala and I have accepted this. 

Also, my mother is constantly finding faults with whatever I do and this has been getting to me. I have tried speaking to her about it in a nice way. However, I am told that I am being disrespectful. 

Please advise me with some zikr, etc., or routine I can follow so I do not waste away time over thinking about matters which I have no control over, as well as a du‘aa that I can read for getting married.

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Lying Child

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

My son, who is almost three years old, has started telling imaginary tales. He also speaks untruths e.g. when asked if he has packed his toys, he replies yes, whereas he hasn't done so. How should such incidents be dealt with now so that he does not grow up with the habit of telling lies? 

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

The following are a few steps that you should take in order to try and assist your son to cease telling lies:

1. Repeatedly drum the lesson, in an endearing way, that Allah Ta‘ala does not like those who tell lies.

2. Explain the hadeeth that when a person lies, a smell emanates from his mouth which the angels can perceive. They (the angels of mercy) then flee up to one mile’s distance. How terrible is this!

3. If he is found to be lying, deprive him of some privilege for that day.

4. If he has spoken the truth, acknowledge it and reward him – even if it be some words of praise or a hug.

May Allah Ta’ala make him an honest and truthful servant of His. 

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Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama

Rights of the Daughter-in-Law

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I require some advice regarding the rights of daughter-in-laws. My mother-in-law swore at me and said that I was never a daughter-in-law to her so she doesn’t care and doesn’t want anything to do with me. My father-in-law even called me shouting and screaming and telling me that my mother-in-law won’t ask for maaf and I must lower myself. He then cut the call. 

After this I am completely heartbroken as well as disheartened towards them. I do not want to go to their home or see them anymore. Please advise the best and correct way to handle this situation. It is very difficult to suppress my feelings, because every time I see them I will remember how disrespectful and demeaning they are to the daughter-in-law of the house. Is this fair to me as a daughter-in-law and what are my rights? 

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Suicidal Friend

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

Unfortunately I have a friend that wants to commit suicide. How can I help her?

Jazakallaahu Khairan 

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Daughters in University

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have just finished matric. My parents want me to go to university next year. I have many friends and family who are in university so I know of the fitnahs and sins that are part of campus life. I heard just recently of a girl who we all knew to be pious, that she met a Hindu boy on campus and wishes to marry him. I don’t want to put my imaan on the line by going to university and being exposed to these fitnahs.

Please advise me as to how I can explain my concerns to my parents and convince them.

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