Striking the Balance in Upbringing

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Our question is regarding how we should go about raising our child. My baby is small and I try to save him from environments and people that could have a negative effect on him. Some family members have a television or their mindset is different. Therefore, in a subtle way, we stop them from taking our baby to their home.

Recently, someone who has already raised children said to me, “You cannot police your child forever. You will learn a lesson the hard way. I did not do this and my kids are good, and so-and-so did what you're doing, and see how their kids are.”

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Following on Twitter

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I am a girl and I follow various males on twitter and there are lots that follow me. I don't speak to any of them but some post inspirational stuff while others just post something funny or interesting from time to time. Sometimes I retweet things from these various males.

My husband does not agree with this at all and always tells me he doesn't like me following men or them following me even though I don't speak to them.

My questions are:

1. Is it haraam for me to follow males and allow them to follow me? 

2. If my husband is unhappy about it, is it okay for me to still do so? 

3. Is my husband right for not wanting me to do that? 

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Masturbation Addiction

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I am addicted to masturbation from a very young age, but I only learned that it’s prohibited in Islam and is a major sin two years ago! I have been trying so hard to stop but I can’t. I need proper guidance and advice on how I should leave it. Also, when I stop the urge, which is now limited to every weekend, I feel so depressed that I become rebellious and irritated with people around me.

I haven’t spoken about this to anyone yet. Please help me. I’m dying in this pit alone!

Jazakallah khair 

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What if He Takes a Second Wife?

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I’m in need of advice please. 

I’m married for several years alhamdulillah. We have had our ups and downs and there was cheating from his side. With the mercy of Allah Ta‘ala, we have got through for few years now and all is going well alhamdulillah.

My problem is that I constantly feel that my husband is going to take a second wife and it really saddens me. I think about it probably ten to twenty times a day. He never said or did anything to cause me to think that he will do this, but it’s still there in my mind.

Please advise and help me to get these thoughts out of my head. 

Jazakallah, may Allah Ta‘ala reward you abundantly. 

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Listening to Music

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I have the bad habit of listening to music. Please advise me as to how I can stop and give up this bad habit

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

1. Listening to music is completely impermissible. You should therefore sit daily and ponder over the punishments that will be given to those listening to music. Imagine that it is the Day of Qiyaamah and there is a line of people who are being called forward, one at a time, and they are all being severely punished. Picture the excruciating pain that the person is going through, the screeching and the screaming that you can hear and the very frightful punishment that is being meted out to the person. You can now see the line moving on and your turn is coming up. Feel the pain, fear and the difficulty of that moment. Make sincere taubah and istighfaar, and be grateful that Allah Ta‘ala gave you a chance that you still have life. Make a firm resolution that you will not go back to this again. Do this muraaqabah (meditation) at least three times a day for the next two weeks. Thereafter continue with it at least once a day.

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