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Frustrated with my Kidz

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Assalamo aleikum! I have 3 kidz all boys alhamdolillah. I love them very much but I can’t give them proper live attention and care I don’t know what to do? I love my kidz more than everything or anything but can’t show or express that love! When they far from me I cry I miss them but when they near me or with me I only make gussa on them and shout to them then I feel very bad after treating them like this! They very stubborn and they don’t listen to me that’s make me more angry and then I lose control over myself! What should I do maulana to be a good mother loving and caring mother and to give my kidz a good education and good manners?

Answer:

Bismihi Ta`ala

Haamidan wa Musalliyan

Respected Sister in Islam

Wa alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Read two rakaats salaah daily and make du`aa on their behalf and don’t do anything without thinking carefully, that what is going to be the consequence of your anger. Many failures come about in life as a result of not thinking carefully.

And Allah Ta`ala knows best

(Mufti) Ebrahim Salajee