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What if He Takes a Second Wife?

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Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I’m in need of advice please. 

I’m married for several years alhamdulillah. We have had our ups and downs and there was cheating from his side. With the mercy of Allah Ta‘ala, we have got through for few years now and all is going well alhamdulillah.

My problem is that I constantly feel that my husband is going to take a second wife and it really saddens me. I think about it probably ten to twenty times a day. He never said or did anything to cause me to think that he will do this, but it’s still there in my mind.

Please advise and help me to get these thoughts out of my head. 

Jazakallah, may Allah Ta‘ala reward you abundantly. 

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

1. Since everything is going smoothly, do not entertain negative thoughts. Shaitaan is trying to destroy your happiness by whispering these thoughts into your mind. Ignore them and recite ta‘awwuz (A‘oozu billahi minash shaitaanir rajeem).

2. Keep your husband happy, shower him with affection and keep making du‘aa for him and for your marriage to be a happy one.

3. It is also essential that Deen be upheld in the home for the happiness and contentment to be acquired.  

May Allah Ta‘ala bless you with a life of happiness and bliss in this world and the next. 

Answered by:

Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama