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Introduction

Islam is a perfect deen. Part of the perfection of Islam is that together with the general obligations that apply to everyone, many laws are specific to males or females, keeping in mind each one’s specific roles in life, their physiological differences and other unique characteristics. Thus the laws pertaining to males and females differ in many aspects, among which are the postures of salaah, etc. Some of these rulings are briefly discussed hereunder.

Shar‘ee Rulings and Etiquettes

Etiquettes when being Addressed

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Last Updated on Thursday, 27 April 2017 14:11

1. When somebody speaks to you, listen attentively. Showing indifference will hurt the speaker’s feelings. Similarly, do not wake up and leave while you are being spoken to (unless the conversation involves haraam e.g. backbiting, etc.).

2. If you do not understand what has been said, seek clarification. Do not pretend to understand, and do not use your own opinion to try and interpret or understand the statement.

3. If you are requested to do something, respond clearly by either accepting or rejecting. Do not give an ambiguous answer or remain silent, thus giving the person the impression that you intend to fulfill the request whereas you do not intend to fulfill it. Also, if you accept, then inform the person as soon as the request is fulfilled.

4. When listening to a lecture or attending a ta’leem, focus on what is being said. Do not engage in conversation with another person, fidget with one’s clothing, fingers, etc., or use one’s phone.

5. If you are asked to identify yourself (e.g. over the phone or when knocking on someone’s door) then do not answer by saying, “It’s me”. Instead, introduce yourself completely by stating your full name.

   

Etiquettes of Speech

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Last Updated on Thursday, 16 March 2017 14:22

1. Speak clearly and in a manner that is easy to understand. Hence, do not speak ambiguously or unclearly. Similarly, be to the point and do not mumble.

2. Always speak to people from the front. Do not stand or sit behind them and speak to them.

3. When a person is speaking to you, give them your complete attention.

4. Do not interrupt a person who is speaking until he completes what he needs to say.

5. Think before speaking.

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Musaafahah – Rulings and Etiquettes

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Last Updated on Thursday, 02 February 2017 16:42

1. Musaafahah refers to clasping the hands.

2. It is sunnah to make musaafahah after making salaam. Hence, one should not merely make musaafahah without making salaam.

3. Musaafahah should be made with two hands.

4. Musaafahah should be made on arrival and on departure.

5. Musaafahah should not be accompanied by any other unfounded practice e.g. kissing cheeks, twisting thumbs, etc.

6. If a person is carrying something, suffice on making salaam and do not inconvenience the person by trying to make musaafahah with him.

7. Similarly, if a person is busy or is rushing, do not inconvenience him by making musaafahah with him.

8. A woman should not greet or make musaafahah with men who are not her mahram.

   

Salaam – Rulings and Etiquettes

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Last Updated on Wednesday, 02 November 2016 10:21

The following are some important rulings and etiquettes pertaining to salaam:

1. It is waajib (obligatory) to reply to the salaam which is written in a letter, email, text message, etc. The reply may be given verbally or in writing.

2. A person who is involved in a conversation or is engaged in some work should not be greeted.

3. It is makrooh to make salaam to a person who is engaged in a deeni activity e.g. reciting the Quraan Majeed, making zikr or du‘aa.

4. It is makrooh to make salaam to a person who is engaged in a natural activity e.g. eating.

5. If one agrees to convey salaams to a certain person, it will be necessary to fulfill the responsibility and convey the greeting. Hence, if one is asked to convey salaams but does not wish that the responsibility become necessary, he should merely say, “I will try” or “insha-Allah”.

6. When writing the salaam, one should refrain from using abbreviations such as ‘slmz’. Rather, the salaam should be written out in full. 

   

Money Matters

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Last Updated on Thursday, 25 February 2016 15:43

1. It is important that the owner of every item in the home be clearly identified and recorded. Exactly what belongs to the husband should be known and exactly what belongs to the wife should likewise be known. If it is not specified and recorded, winding up the estate in the event of one of the spouses passing away will become very difficult and complicated. Nobody will be able to identify the belongings of the deceased partner with certainty.

2. It is not permissible to use the next person’s belongings without their consent and happiness. Failing to specify who the owners of various items are often leads to these items being used without the owner’s permission, thus causing the user to fall into sin.

3. It is important to know that the money which the husband gives to his wife for the running of the home does not belong to her but is rather a trust which should only be used for household expenses. Over and above this, the husband should, on a monthly basis, give his wife some money (based on his income) which she may spend on her personal needs etc.

4. It is advisable for the wife to consult her husband even when spending her personal money. This will increase the unity in their marriage.

   

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