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Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) is reported to have said: “Allah Ta’ala does not look at your features (that who is more beautiful or what is her complexion) and wealth, but He looks at your hearts and actions.” (Saheeh Muslim #6543) While millions are spent on cosmetics, clothing, jewellery, etc, to adorn the outerself, how much effort do we make to purify our hearts and treat the maladies that create a terrible stench therein? The procedure to purify the heart is to refer to the Mashaayikh (spiritual guides) and seek the remedies to one’s spiritual ailments. Hadhrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (mudda zilluhu) is among the spiritual giants of our time who has helped numerous people overcome their spiritual maladies. A selection of the correspondence of those seeking spiritual guidance will be posted for general benefit. May Allah Ta’ala make it a means of our complete rectification.

I Can’t get Over Him


Correspondence of  Hazrat Moulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb (rahimahullah)


I have a very great illness over which I am disturbed and which I would like to put to an end. I had seen a boy about three to four years ago. I never spoke to him nor met him. I did not see him again ever since that day. But I constantly think about him. On account of this, there is no concentration in my studies, salaah, zikr, etc. I do not want to keep anyone apart from Allah Ta‘ala in my heart. I am also greatly disturbed by fantasies and whisperings.


Do not deliberately think of him whether in privacy or in public. Think to yourself: Who bestowed him with this beauty and handsomeness? If this heart is affected by this fleeting beauty and false love, then what can be said of Allah Ta‘ala, the source of all beauty, Who gave this (person) an iota of beauty? The beauty of this person is fleeting, while the beauty of the Creator of beauty is eternal. Therefore, your heart ought to be attached to that eternal Being. This body that is going to die and decompose is not worthy of attachment. The appearance of this body will get worse with the passage of time (as the person gets older) and then you will not even want to look at him. On the other hand, Allah Ta‘ala has a different status at every time, and His beauty is eternal. It is for this reason that when the people will see Allah Ta‘ala in Paradise, they will forget about all the damsels of Paradise and all its other bounties. Read my article on false love one time daily. (Solutions to Spiritual Maladies for the Lovers of Allah Ta‘ala, pg. 92)