A guy I have known since I was in school has come home for proposal as we both are very fond of each other. My family has strongly opposed as unless we make nikkah we will not be able to meet or talk etc. We understand this as it is zina and against Islam and Sunnah. However if we do not get legal it would lead to us hiding and meeting behind their backs. We do plan on nikaah in about two years as by then we should be stable enough and ready for nikaah. We would just like to meet when he comes home to see me with the presence of my family and at functions. Please advise as they are keeping me away from him and it’s just leading me to want to make choices that are not Islamic or right. My family has played a big role in my life supporting us and now feel they should make all decisions for me. I respect them and love them as I know they would like only the best for me and him but according to the sunnah and quraan.


Bismihi Ta’ala

Wa Alaykumus Salaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu

Any contact between the prospective spouses before the nikaah takes place is impermissible. Such contact also ruins the barakah of the nikaah and deprives the marriage of many blessings.

Either you should try and convince your parents to have the nikaah earlier or you should make sabr. Your patience will be greatly rewarded. One of the immediate rewards will be that Allah Ta’ala will be pleased with you. Your marriage will also be Inshallah a happy one, because you refrained from haraam before the marriage.

May Allah Ta’ala assist you.

Was Salaam