Question:
Assalaamu ‘alaikum
A friend of mine is in love with a boy who is 10 years her senior. They are family and both come from respectable households. The girl hasn’t admitted her love to anyone. She made du‘aa that if this boy is meant for her she should see him in a dream. After a while, she saw him in a dream.
If she has to tell her parents, they might get angry because she is still young and studying. The boy was previously married but she doesn’t mind. It doesn’t affect her much but she just thought that maybe she should ask about it.
Jazaakallah
Answer:
Bismihi Ta‘ala
Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh
Respected Sister
1. Nikaah is a major step in life. Such a major decision must never be taken without the guidance and help of one’s parents and seniors.
2. Our advice to your friend is to ignore these feelings. Keep the heart and mind clear. She should continue to make du‘aa on a general note that Allah Ta‘ala should grant her a spouse who is pious and has excellent akhlaaq, etc.
3. The dream she saw is most probably the effect of her mind being pre-occupied in his thoughts. This is not a basis to make any decision.
Answered by:
Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama