(Respected Wife of Dr. Hafeezullah Madani [rahimahullah] – Part Four)

Her son, Dr. Kareemullah Makki, mentioned the following:

My respected mother was very hardworking and would personally carry out all the household chores such as cleaning, sweeping, washing the clothing and dishes, cooking, etc. She was very particular regarding cleanliness. Every item of the home stayed in a specific place. She placed great emphasis on this and would thus say, “Whenever you take anything from its place, then ensure that you return it to its place after using it so that the next time it needs to be used, it will be found easily.”

My mother was very ordered and systematic in her ways and strongly disapproved of things that lacked system and order and were random and haphazard. Hence, when making the bed, she ensured that the duvet, sheets and pillows be equal on all the sides of the bed.

Towards the end of her life, when my mother became bed-ridden, she would insist that food prepared for the guest be brought to her first, in bed, so that she could check whether her daughters and daughters-in-law had placed all the items on the tray neatly and correctly. She was always concerned about the comfort of the guests and would enquire as to whether the guests needed anything.

(Mithaali Khawaateen pg. 333 & 334)

Lessons:

1. Every mother should strive to ‘train’ her children and instil the correct values and qualities in them. Not only should their minds be moulded correctly, but rather even their actions should be guided so that they learn to do things correctly.

2. Being systematic, orderly and organized is a valuable, necessary quality in life. The importance of being systematic and not attending to tasks haphazardly can be understood from cooking – everyone knows that the meat is cooked first and the garnish added at the end. Imagine what the result would be if the garnish was the first thing to enter the pot while the meat was added right at the end! Hence, without system and order, even the simplest of tasks becomes complicated and spoilt. Furthermore, when one does not have a system in life, discomfort and inconvenience is inevitably caused to others, especially one’s husband.

3. Today, many women consider it below their dignity to personally attend to the chores of the home, whereas in reality, a woman who personally carries out the work of the home is generally praised and admired.

4. Entertaining and seeing to the comfort of the guest is among the salient, glaring features of a Believer.