I need some advice. My situation is as follows:
I want to settle down and get married, but I came to know that my mother doesn’t want me to get married until I complete my madrasah and a sewing course which will be approximately 3 years. And those who did ask about me, my mother turned them down, although they were from good pious homes.
I want to know, if you’ll can assist me in some way or the other, if there’s any du‘aas for me to read and which is the best way for me to inform my mother.
I had also spoken to my friend, and she suggested to me that I should first read Salaatul Haajah and then talk to my mother. I would like to know the procedure of performing Salaatul Haajah or is it performed like any nafl salaah?
Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh
1. Provided you are reasonably ready to take on the responsibility of marriage, you should speak to some senior level headed family member who may have influence over your mother and request that she should be advised to seek a suitable match for you and not delay in trying to get you settled.
2. Daily recite “Yaa Jaami‘u Ya Lateefu” 111 times together with Durood Shareef 7 times before and after. Then make earnest du‘aa.
3. Salaatul Haajah is like any other nafl salaah. After the salaah recite this du‘aa first and then make du‘aa for your needs:
لَا إِلٰهَ إِلَّا اللهُ الْحَلِيْمُ الْكَرِيْمُ ، سُبْحَانَ اللهِ رَبِّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيْمِ ، اَلْحَمْدُ لِلّٰهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِيْنَ ، أَسْأَلُكَ مُوْجِبَاتِ رَحْمَتِكَ ، وَعَزَائِمَ مَغْفِرَتِكَ ، وَالْغَنِيْمَةَ مِنْ كُلِّ بِرٍّ ، وَالسَّلَامَةَ مِنْ كُلِّ إِثْمٍ ، لَا تَدَعْ لِيْ ذَنْبًا إِلَّا غَفَرْتَهُ ، وَلَا هَمًّا إِلَّا فَرَّجْتَهُ ، وَلَا حَاجَةً هِيَ لَكَ رِضًا إِلَّا قَضَيْتَهَا يَا أَرْحَمَ الرَّاحِمِيْنَ
4. You may also consider writing a very respectfully worded letter to your mother. First express your love for her and gratitude for whatever she has done for you, etc. Then, very respectfully present your situation and that it is very difficult to wait for all this while.
May Allah Ta‘ala bless you with a suitable spouse who will be a source of comfort and happiness in every respect, aameen.
Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama