Question:
A woman’s husband is getting so overweight and she is feeling him unattractive to her. She did speak to him about it but it doesn’t seem like he is worried. What advice can you give her?
Answer:
Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh
Respected Sister
She should try to get some senior family member to speak to him on a general note and advise him from a health point of view.
In any case, while she is making whatever effort possible to make him reduce weight, she must be patient on the issue of him seeming unattractive. She should focus on the positive and keep making shukr, such as that he is not disfigured or deformed; he does not have any terminal illness, etc. Making whole-hearted shukr daily will reduce the negative feeling.
And Allah Ta‘ala knows best
Uswatul Muslimah Panel of Ulama